I am feeling slightly depressed due to the reason that I have a proactive competitor in my profession who has had some oversmarting victories over me. It is not so that he's more knowledgeable and sucessful always, but he has had outstanding luck at several instances. I'm into media having creativity driven job by nature. I also have an edge of having more innovations oriented approach. I have had several outstanding innovations creeded in my job, which have been appreciated even by the experts at some instances but since last few months I'm feeling dejected and evasive and need to recharge myself. Can anybody guide me on tips for the same? I also have a negative of not having friends since my childhood. So, at most instances I do not get anybody to talk about anything as such. Please contribute.
2007-07-11 04:01:31 · 5 answers · asked by adonis 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Thanx friends for showing your concern. Actually what has been troubling me is the fact that the product of our competition is far more stronger than that of ours. So, the phenomenal lift he gets each time makes me feel down. This is why he's more luckier than me. Also being creative also requires more and more hit and trials, where you are abound to meet the extremes both very highs and very lows. Past some failures have also demotivated me leaving in a state of inaction.
I don't know is it really evasive or not but I'm getting desperate now to go for a job change.
2007-07-11 19:31:47 · update #1
Your competitor should pay you rent. He's taking up too much space in your head.
Focus on what you can do. You're obviously talented. Revel in that and go work it.
Do you have a hobby outside work? Try to find something you like, and see if that sparks any creative advances. You can also meet friends through your hobby.
2007-07-11 04:12:36 · answer #1 · answered by El Jefe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
^Instead of dwelling on his achievements, look at your own from what you've said, you have many.
If he bothers you that much avoid him if you can, your letting him bring you down isn't healthy.
Is he bragging to you all the time, tune him out, he sounds like a physic vampire that's a person who sucks the life out of you by annoying you to death.
Maybe you should take more classes in your field, that might give you the confidence you need. Actually taking classes in anything you enjoy, will help and you will meet same minded people.
If you took the energy you waste on him, and put it into your work, you will exceed him. Your jealousy, will only hurt you, I believe you already know that. Good luck, I hope this helped.
2007-07-16 14:39:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Focus less on competition and your co-worker and start working and focusing on your own creativity. You may need to find times away from work in progressive and creative environments to get the creative juices flowing. Sometimes your only as creative as your surrounding and environment. For example a painter or creator may put them self in the zone through music or going to the mountains. You must identify what puts you in the zone and focus on your work.
2007-07-18 07:34:33 · answer #3 · answered by a2z_alterego 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go get laid. After that who gives a rats *** about anyone else. Do your job 110% and whatever happens happens. Set goals! Give yourself a month, year, 5 year goals and write them down. When you get up ask yourself, "what am I going to do today to reach that goal?" "Get busy living, or get busy dying!"
2007-07-18 21:33:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take meditation classes, like yoga or Tai chi, go out there and socialize while calming your mind.
2007-07-11 04:17:36 · answer #5 · answered by Jake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋