Everyone knows that trust can make or break a relationship. I'm just curious how other people got past the trust issues. Please share your story. Thank you all.
2007-07-11 03:49:20 · 21 answers · asked by Neica 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I was taught to distrust by two husbands.
2007-07-11 04:03:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think no matter what the situation, trust is something to be earned.
I don't automatically dis-trust everyone, but full and complete trust comes with time.
Especially in a romantic relationship, the more time you spend with each other and the more you learn about each other, the trust grows. I think a lot of relationships fail just because for some reason they couldn't ever let the trust grow.
2007-07-11 03:53:56 · answer #2 · answered by T the D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Before i got married i always used to trust people, never gave them the benefit of a doubt. However, my husband abused this trust i.e. lies all the time etc, and now i cant regain it. Even if i try hard i just cant. Our relationship is like hell cause i cant trust him. I never know when he is telling the truth or if he is lying and its killing me right now. How can you live in a world of uncertaintly, and it really doesnt help when you have kids.
Trust is so very important in any relationship, If it is lost then its gone forever, i found that out the hard way.
He only has himself to blame now, when i question him about little things he doesnt like it, i dont like it either but thats the way the cookie crumbles im afraid. He keeps telling me he'll stop lying but it never happens cause he gets caught on the spot.
2007-07-11 04:13:43 · answer #3 · answered by Honey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had major trust issues, coming from a home where my mother cheated on my father after 20 years of marriage. I had one serious relationship that also resulted in cheating, so I assumed all women were like that. Then I met my wife, with that baggage, and to top it off she is gorgeous and had guys hitting on her and asking her out all the time. My trust issues were big in the beginning, but I learned to trust with time. Esp. since she went out of her way to reassure me. We've been married for 6 years now and I trust her completely.
2007-07-11 03:57:11 · answer #4 · answered by Yogi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well didn't always trust for along time I always thought you could never really trust in a relationship, until I met my husband, I trust him completely, he has never given me any reason not to trust him. And that is a big factor in a relationship, without trust what do you have.
2007-07-11 03:53:57 · answer #5 · answered by Brezzy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've always had trust issues. I was married before and my ex mistrusted me so much. Now with my new husband, there have been a few instances where the trust thing came back as an issue. It has always been hard for me to trust someone, especially if they don't give you much reason to. It's something that has to be earned back by the person who mistrusted you.
2007-07-11 03:53:33 · answer #6 · answered by rapunzel_1689 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you "learn" to trust someone, and that's because that person has "earned" that trust.
My 1st marriage ended because my husband (ex) cheated on me. I used to always think how lucky I was that I wouldn't ever have to worry about my husband cheating. I just never thought, in my wildest dreams, that he would do that to me.
He did.
So I thought how would I ever be able to trust anyone ever again? Being that I trusted him totally and completely.
Then my husband (now) came into my life.
I didn't trust him completely, at first. But I have to say, I have learned to trust , again.
I do trust him with my heart, with my life, and with my happiness.
So I truly believe trust is something that develops from a loving relationship :)
2007-07-11 04:08:01 · answer #7 · answered by MommaBear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I trusted my husband fully, from the beggining, going back to when we first met. Now i trust him as far as I can throw him. I guess him having an affair will do that to a person. I have decided to work on the marriage, but I doubt I will ever really trust him again, which makes me think that will be the end of it, someday.
2007-07-11 03:59:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is very scared! With that in mind, trust takes time. As time passes with you and your love one, you Begin to grow as one. As you become one you share feeling together. Trust is one of those feelings. If you don't have the trust as one (meaning the both of you) then you are not one, you become separated. So my point is if you don't have trust for one another you really don't have sh^t. I hope I didn't confuse you.
2007-07-11 03:58:15 · answer #9 · answered by hunting4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, i'm still working on the trust issue.
** I believe trust is built in a relationship not given. There are signs if you should trust a person or if their not worthy of it. You have to pay attention to those signs and don't ignore them. **
2007-07-11 03:56:10 · answer #10 · answered by All the way live! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had to learn to trust because the Bible tells us to put not your trust in man because they will deceive you but after twenty years I have a little trust in my husband but I tell you I have not put all my trust in him and I love him dearly,But I know and believe in each and every word in the Bible is true that's why I have not given him all of my trust and never will because he is human and he love me,but he can turn in a blink of an eye.
2007-07-11 03:58:12 · answer #11 · answered by heavenlli_61 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋