I was recently out of town, and discovered that less than 30 minutes after I left, my husband was on Myspace emailing another woman. He told her I had just left, so he was trying to get into trouble. She of course, emailed him back. He then said, "Yeah, some people can't handle freedom, so they get in trouble instead." What do you think I should do? He has not emailed her since I returned home, although she continues to post comments to his account. He is acting strangely loving towards me, being very attentive, etc... In the past, sometimes he was very distant. I haven't said a word, I'm just monitoring the situation. Any advice is helpful.
2007-07-11 03:28:03 · 14 answers · asked by wondering 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sometimes just sending these e-mails back and forth may amount to nothing but you don't say if they ever hooked up or it never went beyond cyberspace. It seems to me that he will eventually hang himself with his own deceptions if he continues to behave this way when you are away. I would do exactly what you are doing, monitor the situation and await the end result. It's possible that he just likes the thrill of the hunt and won't actually sign up for the events (if you know what I mean). Good luck and God Bless.
2007-07-11 03:33:28 · answer #1 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I, personally, would continue to monitor the situation. If he doesn't know you are "onto him", he may dig himself a hole he can't dig himself out of, and then you will know for sure whether you should divorce him or stay with him, based on whether he continues or goes any further in his emails/conversations with this other woman.
Another option, create your own myspace account under an alias and see if he will talk to you and what he says/how he acts. Flirtatious? If so, then chances are he is either looking for someone to cheat with, or has already found someone to cheat with....Good luck
2007-07-11 11:30:42 · answer #2 · answered by Paul's Doll : ) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd keep watching the emails. Maybe he's just entertaining himself. But if it gets to phone conversation levels, I'd worry. Right now I think it's best not to let him know you suspect anything. If you confront him, you'll need solid evidence he's trying to mess around. If it's not, he'll just deny it and make some excuses....then he'll get more sneaky. In the meantime, try to work on your relationship with him. Maybe he doesn't feel that he's getting enough attention. I think this is a 'wait and see'... good luck.
2007-07-11 10:41:02 · answer #3 · answered by Neica 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
confront it and nip it in the bud. Tell him to stop and how you feel about. Be very clear of your expectations. If he continues then you know there's a problem and you can make some decisions. Its not fair to you that you have to be uncomfortable and "monitor" that's not how you should live your life worrying about dumb mistakes your hubby may do.
2007-07-11 10:34:39 · answer #4 · answered by Lana 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is feeling guilty about his actions as of late! Don't let your guard down, but definately take advantage of his attentiveness! Let him know how much you love him and keep monitoring! Good luck!
2007-07-11 10:40:01 · answer #5 · answered by raininonsunday 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop playing games and just tell him. Ask him what it's all about. It might be nothing at all , or maybe him being loving on you has more to do with the fact that he might be cheating on you.
So talk to him
Good luck
2007-07-11 10:33:10 · answer #6 · answered by johanne 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get your own myspace account and leave him a comment about how much you love him.
2007-07-11 10:33:05 · answer #7 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You husband is an idiot...doesn't he know that he should keep all his passwords private. and that he should have a different secured log on if he's gonna play around on the internet behind your back.
2007-07-11 10:36:52 · answer #8 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
your husband is being extra nice to you only to cover up his mis-doings. Making you fell like he loves to so much and he would never hurt you. You should confront him about it.
2007-07-11 11:20:56 · answer #9 · answered by jimmy.parker06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's either guilty about what he's doing or he's trying to cover it up. I'm not sure which.
You should definately confront him about this, though. It's not right what he is doing.
2007-07-11 10:32:10 · answer #10 · answered by xeyelinerwh0rex 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋