how does it come by? pessimism is learnt when a kid mirrors his depressed family/peers etc and that nobody is born pessimistic.
ever noticed a baby, fearless of falling, always getting up to try again?
why dont we just bounce back from all the failures or perceived failures and get stronger?
why do we get pulled down and affected by people's mean words to us?
why do we so desire human companionship and acceptance that we feel down in the dumps when no one wants to partner us in a project, practical or in a game? [im feeling rejected, i dont hv a partner for all my projects, all my practicals, and practically no friends to speak of at all - in class]
how do we overcoem all these? well yea we need to change our mindsets, but what is a really effective way to do so?
2007-07-11 03:03:59 · 7 answers · asked by love_and_luv_always 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
to answer some of your questions, i'm 19, female, and the bottom has fallen out of my world since i was 10 and realised the meaning of rejection.
that was when i realised the impact of my parents' divorce (they divorced when I was 6) and since then i'v retreated into my shell; i dont wanna get hurt anymore.
and no, i'm not christian, cos i feel god has already given me up for dead he nv answered my prayers
2007-07-11 03:30:10 · update #1
You have just started your road to recovery, i was the same as a child, but never realised it, till i was about 25, i hope your younger and am realising your fate in life early. Its hard to change, living with the ones that know you, in school and home, cos you will allways be who you are,,,,so be brave, and change yourself, your hair, your attitude towards others,,and DONT BE SCARED TO ASK FOR HELP...cos you have allready started the change by asking, ok, best luck,
2007-07-11 03:13:51 · answer #1 · answered by dirk o 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people may be more predispositioned towards pessissism than others though I believe it is pretty common.
It's hard to be optimistic and hopeful. One thing I try to remember is that the future is unwritten. As long as it is unwritten, good things can happen. I think you should start figuring out what you want from life, realize that life is short, and start working towards achieving that no matter what anyone else says. A great way to meet people is through volunteer work. It takes the focus off of yourself and more on someone else or something else. What activities do you enjoy? Do you like reading? If so, join a book club. They usually meet at libraries. Do you enjoy dancing? Take a dance class. The point is to get out there and start doing things that you are interested in. That will help put you in a better place to think more optmistically.
I am a step mom to 2 children. It is hard for them, I know but it's hard for me too. I only see them part-time. But I am trying hard to develop a relationship with them by being more laid back. I'm giving them more control. I know that your parents are divorced. My parents are still together. Your parents divorce has nothing to do with you. People sometimes go in different directions. It doesn't mean that they don't love you. In fact, I believe that they love you even more.
2007-07-16 16:03:22 · answer #2 · answered by Unsub29 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least pessimism prepares you for the inevitable thumps you get in life and guarantees some glorious moments when you are proved wrong! As for the other question, you are evidently not in the right company for your projects to be crowded with volunteers. Try a club or society where everyone is keen on the topic in question. Goo Luck!
2007-07-11 10:11:49 · answer #3 · answered by John G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a very good question! I have often wondered about this myself why is it that as a child i have no fear but when I come into adulthood i have tons of fears. I think that the biggest reason is television there are so many diffrent types of programs that install many types of views on life. Mostly false hopes i think. Some of it my be from the way we are raised by our parents. I find that alot of the things i do are similar to what my parents do. I think the answer is to find out what makes you happy and persue it no matter what it takes. It is not easy to pursue happiness everything in life is alot of work but once you reach your goal it is very rewarding. Hang in there and remember your not alone that there is more people out there like you . find them they won't just fall in your lap.
2007-07-11 10:24:18 · answer #4 · answered by ryan7212005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pessimism always springs from ppl thinking that tomorrow could be worse. Fact is, tomorrow can be worse no matter what we think. Why not live today happily and let tomorrow take care of itself?
The cure to pessimism is believing in yourself. If you believe in yourself, tomorrow never dies. Have faith!
2007-07-11 10:14:34 · answer #5 · answered by WWLim 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah i have come over this situation.i may not be in ur shoes but i know what u mean
what i do most is try to ignore those ignorant ppl and i believe that if we put our trust in god,we will be guide slowly and you can see how circumstances change and ppl will realize it soon..
been there ,and experience those things
2007-07-11 10:14:36 · answer #6 · answered by ~electra~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pessimist: "You can't hurt me any more so don't even try. I will scrutinize what you are doing and that is that." That should also give you the answer you seek.
2007-07-17 18:53:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋