hi i have a friend who was 14 weeks pregnant when she went for a scan they told her there wasnt a heartbeat the baby was the right size of a 14 week old fetus so it must have only just died. the hospital told her she had to go back in 2 weeks if the baby didnt come out on its own is there any chance that she could go back and see the baby is still alive or does this sound stupid? she has lost about 4 babies and shes only 21 i feel like i cant be there for her as im 21 weeks pregnant but i have let her know im there for her i wish there was something i could do for her as all ahe wants is to be a mother and on top of this she just found out her partner has just been cought cheeting on her and it looks like the other woman i pregnant how can i help her??
please be kind
2007-07-11 00:34:25 · 7 answers · asked by kellytreen 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
The baby likely died in utero and they are just waiting for it to miscarry. If she does not miscarry in 2 weeks they will probably do another scan to confirm the baby's death and then either wait more or take the baby (either an abortion or by inducing labor). I'm very sorry for you friend.
Just ask her what she needs. She may want to talk about the baby and about the experience. She may just want to sit and be quiet. Don't avoid her, however ask her if it is ok that you are around. If she says that it is making it worse seeing you then just give her some space. Do NOT take it personally - it is not that she doesn't want to be your friend, but you may feel like a constant reminder of what she can't have. Send a card or email and let her approach you when she is ready.
2007-07-11 00:58:58 · answer #1 · answered by Rob 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My girlfriend had several miscaridges and is now 37 weeks. She is still nervous that there will be complications. I would not worry about your friend being jealous, just be there for her. While your friend may not completely understand, just tell her that the body is an amazing and complicated machine. The body has rejected the fetus for a reason, weather it is to protect the mother or because there was some abnormality with the fetus. If she is getting pregnant naturaly, there may be some problem in the uterus that the doctors have not found yet. If your friend really wants to have a baby, have her see a doctor before she gets pregnant again so they can monitor her more closely.
Just a side note. My friend has had several miscaridges and 1 stilborn baby. She is now 34 weeks but has had problems with her membranes leaking. She literaly has a leather patch that the doctor puts inside her twice a week. Everything is fine so far.
2007-07-11 00:53:17 · answer #2 · answered by Dylan L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds low.Be there for her and she should go back to the hospital and find out if the baby is still alive.
A friend was in the same situation and the baby died,stayed in the womb for a week or two and by the time it was induced to come out,her entire uterus was gone.it had gotten rotten.So now she cant have a child.
Please let her go back to the hospital ASAP.
2007-07-11 00:55:12 · answer #3 · answered by uj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should go back and see if the baby is alive. It's not stupid as she deserves to know for sure.
All you can do is be there for her and try to get her to talk about what is happening. She might be thinking she has no one to rely on now that her partner has been cheating on her. Try and make sure that she has as many caring people around her as possible as she must be scared and alone.
2007-07-11 00:39:54 · answer #4 · answered by pip 34 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kelly,
The best thing you can do is become the best listener you can be. She needs to talk to someone and if you want to take on those duties then open up your ears and shut your mouth, because there is very little you can say to make it better.
TDCWH
2007-07-11 00:42:57 · answer #5 · answered by TDCWH 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's terrible. Just be there for her, be available for her to talk too.
2007-07-11 00:38:17 · answer #6 · answered by lisa k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"oh Man", you better spend some time over their (suicide watch), I'm not kidding either, what an emotional blow.
2007-07-11 00:44:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋