ok so on saturday my mother was robbeb by gun point they took her car and then hit her with her car as they took off..not to mentions they took her purse and her money..she is ok thank god..but its like now they have the keys to our apartment and our mailbox..its like they can get in here anytime they want to..so we changed the top lock and it took me like two hours cause i never did it before and now i just have to do the bottom lock..but im so scared!! what if the like try to bust down the door or break our window or something?? i dont even go outside since then..unless im with someone but only in a car not walking..i new this was not that great of a place to live..but i never expected this!! so now at night i cant sleep..im constantly hearing noises and i just cant sleep! what if they come back..they know she called the cops cause we sorta saw one of them the other day...i was scared...so how do i start sleeping again???
2007-07-10 23:10:54 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in News & Events ➔ Other - News & Events
oh yeah and sorry if i posted this in the wrong area but i did not know what category to put it in??
2007-07-10 23:12:34 · update #1
To better understand your reaction to what happened, read about post-traumatic stress disorder at http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/post-traumatic-stress-disorder/DS00246/DSECTION=1.
The following website also has many good links to information on post-traumatic stress disorder: http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/posttraumaticstressdisorder.html.
Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) has been popularized in the media regarding veterans returning from combat, but it may occur after events as simple as a motor vehicle accident. It is not too soon for you to be experiencing PTSD, although some PTSD can occur years after the causative event.
Most sources suggest finding someone (like a counselor or support group) to talk to about your anxiety. Some of your anxiety may decrease as time passes without more stressful events, but the level of anxiety you are experiencing can be physically damaging.
Many, many people have experienced what has happened to you and they will all understand. You may want to contact a support group or counselor from the telephone directory. Someone from the police also may be able to suggest a "Victims of Violent Crime" type support group. Whatever method you choose, talking to others (especially others who have been through this) may help you immensely.
Now that we've talked about the emotional aspects of what happened, let's discuss your physical dangers. Fortunately you are living in an apartment that you do not own (I'm wondering why the apartment manager/owner did not change the lock themselves since your keys were stolen in a crime?) and it may be easier to simply move. You do not mention whether the crime occurred outside the apartments, but if it did, moving may ease some of your anxiety.
Please realize what you're feeling is a normal response. And please find a counselor or support group. You cannot live as a prisoner of anxiety.
2007-07-11 02:47:37 · answer #1 · answered by july 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'll tell you what I'd tell my wife. This person already got what they wanted and more. Now to try to rob you again would be a danger to them since you might just be expecting it, officers may be watching your place in his mind because they know these things were taken. If the criminal wants avoid being busted for the first crime, he will avoid a second crime on you or he could be linked to two crimes then and get in more trouble. He will just go on to the next victim. He will also know you changed your lock and the keys will do no good. If he has a gun, he can get in any house he wants anyway. Furthermore, his specialty is stealing cars and he has a chop shop he goes to to dump them. Car thieves are most likely specialists in that area because that system pays so well for them.
Take care and relax a bit if you can
2007-07-10 23:20:28 · answer #2 · answered by rich e rich 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Oh hun I am so sorry to hear that this happened to you and your family. I would be exactly like you too...I think it is a natural human instinct to react how you are. They probably have got what they wanted the day they took your mums car and stuff. I do not think they will want to return to your house, they were probably just morons who wanted to go joyriding. Hopefully the police can offer you some support in this horrible time. Also speak to your doctor about maybe giving you something to help you sleep.
2007-07-10 23:19:07 · answer #3 · answered by ♥ Bettyb ♥ ™ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First, I'm Sorry they had robed your Mum, That just sucks........ Regarding your question What yo did first (changing the locks) It's the best thing you can do for the moment. keep a lookout when you plan to go out and I advice you to buy some pepper spray for personal defense.
The If you and your Mum and too scared to stay there, Start the search for a new place.
try to relax and make sure you lock the doors and secure the windows before going to bed.
2007-07-10 23:24:36 · answer #4 · answered by Popoteloco 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How awful for you. I am really sorry. I've been burgled and it takes you quite a while to get over it.
If you saw the burglar, have you reported that to the police? You can get hold of a panic button, too. One of those alarms you hang aorund your neck, which set of a siren. Or you could install a burglar alarm, with a panic button.
But they probably won't come back. It will take time to settle your nerves.
Hope they get caught and I hope this fades into time. Like my burglary.
2007-07-11 00:20:59 · answer #5 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
how awful for your mum , a friend of mine got robbed a few weeks ago and they are still very shook up about it .
its natural that you cant sleep now its your bodies way of telling you to be alert .
get some sort of protection like an alarm or a big dog to make you feel safer
maybe if you contact the police they could patrol and check on your house at night time, this may help
i hope these people are caught and themn we can all sleep a bit better at night
2007-07-10 23:26:06 · answer #6 · answered by Karl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That story has been a common one played out in society and it is true of neighborhoods having certain elements of danger, but no matter where you live the experience will be a haunting memory for you and your mother, but trapping yourself in your house with defense can only heighten your fear. It may be time to move out of the position your life has settled in, when you leave the house ask questions to try and find answers , write your experience down .
2007-07-10 23:27:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Am sorry this happened to you & your Mum.
Some time ago i was located in a fairly isolated placed and my husband used to return in the wee hours of the morn.
I used to be petrified as a burglary had taken place next door.
The thing that got me relaxed again was, well...Faith!
Faith in my God & faith in myself. Pray for protection and learn some self defence. I did. Get your security checks updated and you'll feel safe again. Will pray for you too!
2007-07-11 00:19:27 · answer #8 · answered by Faith 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"Robbed by gun point"? Isn't that a felony? Get yourself one, sleep will come easily.
2007-07-11 00:30:24 · answer #9 · answered by Mr.Wise 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋