i love someone.
and i once told him i LIKE him.
he told me not to think of him "like that" and i said i wouldnt.
but i never told him about the depths of my emotions... i never told him i love him.
my question is: would it be selfish to tell him how much he means to me, and that i still think about him even after i told him i wouldnt? i've never lusted over him. i just love being around him, because i know we'll never be together... and somehow that's ok. but sometimes i just wish he knew how i felt. i wish he knew that his smile makes me happy. i wish he knew that i care about him.
2007-07-10 19:51:46 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I would respect his wished.
But it sounds like to me that since you care that much for him, it has to show in every thing you do. You say you enjoy being around him, but did you ever stop to think that since he doesn't want you to say anything, that it might either upset him or embarrass him and he may stop hanging around you. Just enjoy your time with him, if he doesn't come around, you will find someone that cares for you as much as you care for them.
2007-07-10 20:00:21 · answer #1 · answered by jenx 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that that is sweet. I'm sorry you're having troubles over a boy.
From my own perspective, that would not be selfish at all. If it is clear to you that he is not interested, then of course there is a chance you are jeopardizing a possible friendship. And if, as you say, the knowledge that you might never be together is okay, then if you can find a nice quiet place in your mind to place the doubts and curiosities, your love for him could mature into something completely different, in time--something which he would appreciate.
But selfish? Of course not. Guys are ego-hounds, you couldn't hurt him with something flattering. If it bothers you so much, then you won't be any happier with these very strong feelings repressed.
If all you have is doubt, then you don't have much to lose, whichever path you take.
Best Wishes,
-R
2007-07-11 03:00:57 · answer #2 · answered by Rex C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, I am sad to say, but I feel somewhat the same. I have been in love with this guys for a long time, and I've seen him date all this other girls. And the worse part is, I think he knew that I LIKED him. He never knew or is to know that I LOVE him. I think about him all the time at night and I wish I wouldn't. I've tried getting over him but I don't seem to be able to. I wish I could just be with him. And not to mention I've gone out with him. I think that you are lucky that you haven't gone out with this guy that you love, because now I know how he makes me feel when I'm with him and now I know what it feels like, and I want to feel like that again. It hurts me so much but know he's single, and if I have a chance to talk to him any time soon, if you will tell this guys that you love him, I will tell my guy.
2007-07-11 02:58:58 · answer #3 · answered by v_bal_bum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie .... your words contradict each other! How many years has it been since the two of you passed into separate paths? You should have said what you wanted to instead of making false promises. If you really feel that you will never be together, then you need to make that stand. If you feel that the two of you should be together, then contact him again. Keep in mind that he may not have felt as strongly for you as you did for him. I don't know how old you are, but I'm guessing that you are a bit younger than I am. If you couldn't express your feelings then, how would you convey them now?
2007-07-11 03:04:22 · answer #4 · answered by noonecanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you cannot control your emotions, but it may be best to become really close friends with him. Then whenever you do anything nice or cute he will think if you still like him and it may get him to the same point you are at.
2007-07-11 02:56:07 · answer #5 · answered by alli7201 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how long ago you told him, peoples views can change with time, but it sounds to me that if he still feels that way and you confess your love for him, you might lose a friend. : (
2007-07-11 02:56:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesnt like you there is nothing you can do. If he didnt except that you liked him dont think he will except that you love him. Sorry. Also didnt you JUST ask this question three minuts ago?
2007-07-11 02:56:04 · answer #7 · answered by llama4240 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aaaw..it's best you save yourself from future depression and say nothing.The pain you'll go thru holding it in is nothing compared to what you may go thru if you spill the beans(trust me).
2007-07-11 02:55:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
love isnt worth a piece of cheese, thats why i am emo, fyi post this on dating and singles
2007-07-11 02:53:42 · answer #9 · answered by Ashley3456 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes our imagination is better than reality.
2007-07-11 02:56:22 · answer #10 · answered by Max 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋