Do you think a wife should be lucky that she doesnt need to work or shes not force to work by her husband ? I?

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Do you think a wife should be lucky that she doesnt need to work or shes not force to work by her husband ? I am a liberated woman,i have that thinkin that woman or wife should have a career of their own.But living in Asia where theres very small options.I dont have a choice for great jobs unless i would want to be a factory worker or a supermarket lady. Am i really that lucky ,my friends envy me ..But i am used to working and having money save all for myself every month.Spend what i wanna spend save what i wanna save..Any comment

im sorry..no offense to factory workers or supermarket ladies..i know its a honest living.pls. feel free to read my previous question about this.
We dont have kids i only have a doggy.Im tryin to get pregnant for 7 yrs. but to no avail. Hes 44 and feel hes old to have a kid again but hes ok to have it though.. Yes, i live in japan but i didnt finish a degree in college so im not qualified to work in such establishments like ESL jobs.

Answer 1

Read your entire story, and all I can say is, I FEEL FOR YOU! Been there, done that!!!! I too have a husband who would rather not have me work full-time. He has no problem with me working part-time, so long as I have time to take care of him and the house. Sounds like your hubby does a lot more than a lot husbands would, taking his day off to help you. He sounds like a wonderful man!

Use your liberation and put it to some good use. I hear your problem with not being able to do anything in the country you're in. Must be difficult to not know the language. When you go out shopping, how do you communicate with people? If school is impossible, then is there anyway that you can take courses online through other colleges?

I admire the fact that you've looked into volunteering. How about something where they teach people English? Do those programs exist out there? I'll admit that I'm clueless! :-)

I don't think you should or should not feel lucky to live the life that you are. I've lived as a housewife for more time than I cared to, and I was miserable! I too have no kids, but two dogs. I currently work part-time, go to school part-time, and am an Honors Student. Because my husband doesn't want me to work full-time, it makes no sense for me to go on to a four-year institution. I go to a community college to save us money...but if I really wanted to save us money, I wouldn't go at all. Not an option for me--I need to keep my mind active!

If you can't go to school, maybe you can read up on certain subjects and become proficient in them. Could you maybe help your husband at his work by volunteering your time there, doing what duties needed to be done?

I'd love to hear more about how you're doing if it's possible to do so through this site. I'm still getting used to it!!! :-)

Answer 2

It is only lucky if you think it's lucky. And it doesn't sound like you do. Nice that you are in a position to not HAVE to work, not many people have that convenience. However, if it bothers you and you are not happy, then by all means go out and find yourself a job. No matter how small. Better to have your own money and independence than not, if that is what you prefer. Nothing wrong with being a factory worker or supermarket lady. It's an honest living.

Answer 3

Each Women Is Strong IN They're Own Special Unique Way. If You Wanna Work & Feel Secure ABout You're Money Go Ahead. Theyr'es Nothign Wrong With Having A Little Extra Money For ANy Emergency's. I Think Anyone Who Wants To Work Should Work. Dont Be Afraid To Be Held Back. Go For It. &hearts

Answer 4

you r not lucky at all .Whether u r a working woman or house wife ur work load is same. But If u have a little baby then its better to be a house wife untill ur baby becomes 3 yrs old. bcoz the wife has more responsibility towards the child than the husband. Theres is no matter of being lucky or not lucky its how u manage ur family. Its family understanding. family is more important than career.

Answer 5

Every situation and relationship is different. Many women would be happy in your situation, while others that are independent, wouldn't. I had the life where I didn't have to work, but I also did not feel like I really had a place. Yes, you are lucky. Is it for you, maybe not. You said you're in Asia, so am I. I know in Japan, there are many opportunities that pay well to teach English... look into it.

Answer 6

Well, part of being a liberated woman is having choices. You don't need to work, so you are lucky, but you can choose to work. If you want to get a job, get a job! I also think it's important that everyone has a job and does something valuable for society even if it is just being a supermarket lady (just imagine how hard it would be to buy your groceries without them!), just being a parent is not good enough since working parents are just as good, if not better, when it comes to parenting.

Answer 7

I am living in California where circumstances force both parents to work, or no house payment......however, my husband has found a job where I don't need to work.....

Shame on me, or good for my children? What is your view?

My son has gone from problem child at school, to Mojave Vista Honor roll student. Again, I lay that judgement on you, what do you think is better, earning more per household, or the honor roll certificates.....????

California is full of duel income families, they are sickening, but now people from Mexico import here and buy houses that four or more familes occupy. How can the single income families keep up with that, since they raise rents based on family occupancy??

Are we forced to live with this system, that our government allows, or is there something we can do, like stopping our borders........ooops, that is taboo, ....lol, keeping track of the border noone wants to talk about, since it has become a race thing....lol

Good luck democrats, let everything go as usuall, they will see what a problem it has become....

ps, we pay almost $299 a month just so that illegals can have their babies here in the US.......What do they pay? Nothing!!!!!! Medicare covers them, do hopefully the democrats have something different. I'm so sick of paying for illegals in Calif that I want something to change....

Answer 8

I think maybe the initial intention is nice but i wouldnt not work, id get an education and have my own money so i can contribute to the marriage and to relieve burden to my husband also its just not smart this day and age to not work, be marketable if you are out of the work world to long it will hurt you when you eventually want a job, also as a woman i believe woman should work it helps your marriage, your self esteem and its nice to have adult interaction with others- i dont this its luck my hubby would love for me to leave my job- not going to happen

Answer 9

I felt the same way you did when we had our last son and I stayed home to be a full-time Mommy..I kept thinking that I had to go back to work, because I was so locked into my own spending habits....It sounds like you are independent, too!...Maybe you can use your need to contribute to good use and volunteer your time and talents to help others?
Can you turn a hobby into something that can make you money on the side? Do you have a hobby?....
Can you go back to school or take a few enrichment classes at your local college?...Does your religion allow you to participate in organized events?...there are lots of other things in life besides work!...You just have to reprogram your lifestyle and step outside your comfort zones to honor your husband!...Blessings to you and yours...

Answer 10

I am a stay at home mom and haven't worked in five years, yes, i think woman who get to stay home and not work are very lucky, some woman have to work and have no choice, of course our family has to sacrafice, we can't go out as much and we can't buy as much but i can spend time with my kids and watch them grow up, sounds like your used to being independent and i know it feels strange, but you can use this time for yourself, you can go for a walk or read , sleep late, friends envy you because you don't have to get up and go somewhere everyday, when your sick you don't have to worry, you can stay home and get well, you have freedom, your not forced to go to a job, ....