i need an advice plz? a.s.a.p read my story?

Question

well i met my ex-girlfriend 4 years ago in a chatroom and eversince we started talking we both clicked. The day we met for the first time i asked her out while playing mini-golf and i kissed her. We went out for 3 months but i was facing some issues while we were going out. I was depressed because before we went out i was doing drugs and I stopped because i fell in love with her. I wented us to be happy so i did that not thinking i was going to become depressed. During the last 3 weeks we went out i became really aggressive and i became mad for anything if she spent time with her friends. so she left me 3 years 9months ago. I still was stupid to put her through a lot of stress after we broke up. I nearly killed myself for her. Eversince that day i been trying to get back with her. I love the girl with all my heart i believe she is the one. So i planned something out for next sat i was oging to pick her up early in the morning and i was going to take her out to get some breakfast then

i was going to take her to a concert because i purchased two tickets for the concert. Aferwards, I was going to take her out to the cheesecake factory and to top off the night we were going to go to D&B and have fun. I told her 2 weeks ago not to make any plans for july 21st . so i asked her today if were going to hang out for sure and she told me she cant because she is hosting some make up event for her brother's friend. I haven't seen her in 3 years and i wanted it all to be a surprised and i wanted to prove to her that day that i changed and that am a different person now. I wanted to tell her how i still feel about her. I swear i love her and i feel like she is the one. I still believe i can win her. Last year i had a chance because she told me but i didnt believe her. i really wanted this to go down on the 21st i had it plan out for weeks. I want to know if you think i should try talkin her into going with me and if i should give up on her,forever. or how i can win her back ?

Answer 1

DUDE, get over it and move on . Heal yourself . It is now a mental thing and thats not good . Help your self before getting back with your ex ( if she still wants you) she won't want you back with your old ways.

Answer 2

O.K. I think I would like it if maybe you just met me somewhere before the make up party and told me that you were sorry , and that you really feel rotten for treating me so badly (no excuses here) and that you think she is a very lovely person and you would like to hang out , If she would like to as well , if she can tell you when you will be there for her. I also think a nice bouquet of flowers would be a nice gesture good luck to you, and so glad to know that you are off drugs , that is a big step in the right direction

Answer 3

im sorry bro but sometimes we dont know what we have until we looooose! its been 3 years that you havent seen this girl she probably is most likely she is over you and she just wanted to hang out with you for old times sake but you lost her and im glad for yourself that you are not that same person you were 4 years ago you have come a long way and you probably sacrafize a lot to get were you are now! i hope you were doing it for yourself. you should have a lot of confidence in yourself after everything you have done.
and if you put all the effort that you were puting to plan the 21st of july you can find another girl that would be right for you and thats going to give you all the respect and attention you deserve

Answer 4

There really isn't a simple answer here. But first off don't try to convince her to go with you. You're just going to seem to pushy. You're the one that has to rearrange the plans if you're serious about her. Don't give up on what you feel and think is love. Hang in there, and if it's meant to be it'll happen. You should just ask her when she's free. And tell her you have something special planned, maybe she'll take it more seriously.

Answer 5

Have you gotten on medication? Sounds like this is something serious, and manic depression or bi polar might be you. You also sound obsessive and possesive and that is kinda scary. How can you focus on that girl this long, if she isn't with you now,maybe you need to think that you are coming on too strong. I know how you feel, when I love I really love and it takes me forever to stop hurting and wishing to be together again, but that is because I am depressed and I do become deeply attached to people. Love is almost too powerful sometimes. You are putting so much into her, you need to make you happy first, depending on someone else to make you happy is unhealthy. Trust me, I know how you feel, I have bf and I am scared more than happy that I will lose someone yet again. By doing this though I am making my fears push him away. So I have to pull back. Pull back man, before you lose yourself completely. If she loves you she will be back.

Answer 6

Just take it one step at a time. Nothing you can do but wait and hope. I know it freaking sucks..believe me, it freaking sucks when the plans you had that day to see someone you loved or haven't seen in a while ruin, you can't sleep; get pissed and think that there is not tomorrow,but there is0you know why?..the door has not officially shut it's doors-point being, wait and be patient,she'll come around, she knows you want her;you know she knows. I would just tell her to call you and to let you know when it's goo for her, as you are on her clock schedule, that way she knows she's the boss-don't mess it up!

Answer 7

Don't let her go unless she tells you to. You seem like a very nice and honest guy. Be honest with her. Tell her you want to make things right and you want to be there for her when no one else is. Tell her you love her and you are sorry for everything you put her through in the past. I am only 16 but i have been through heartbreak after heartbreak until i met the one i am with now. I still have heartbreaks everyone once in a while but not every day like i used to. Try to talk to her and try to talk her into letting you show her who you are.

Answer 8

You treated her pretty bad the first time around if she has something else planned the just try to plan again. She is the one in control here! let it stay that way! You messed up not her so you will have to play by her rules and work extra hard to win her back!

Answer 9

well did you give her plenty of notice before the 21st? cause if not its no ones fault she made other plans. if you did give her plenty of notice then maybe she is afraid it will turn out the way it did before. have you tried talking to her and telling her what you were gong through last time? if not i would tell her what was going on back then and then tru again, try setting it up for another time. good luck!
kellym ~angel eyes~ ps if she turns you down dont go back to the drugs! keep your head up. keep the faith

Answer 10

Please take this answer seriously.....it's been a long time.....and maybe she has lost interest. If she thinks back to the last time she saw you, she will remember the bad times first.
Give her one more chance to accept/decline a date. If she comes up with another excuse not to go through with a date you will have to move on. If this requires help, talk to someone you trust. Hope this helps.

Answer 11

FOR STARTERS, PLEASE DO NOT BECOME INSISTANT BY ASKING HER TO CANCEL HER PLANS ON THE 21ST- THIS WILL SEEM AGGRESSIVE TO HER. TONE IT DOWN A BIT- CHILL OUT- WITH THE HISTORY OF DOMESTIC, YOU HAVE GOT TO BE PATIENT. SHE MAY BE HAVING SECOND THOUGHTS- SO, DO NOT ASK HER AGAIN TO CANCEL HER PLANS FOR U. SHE IS STILL MORE THAN LIKELY A BIT APPREHENSIVE IN RE: TO THIS POSSIBLE RECONCILIATION- IF YOU ARE REALLY SERIOUS ABOUT THIS, YOU NEED TO SHOW PATIENCE. SHE IS GOING TO BE SPENDING TIME WITH FRIENDS ON SATURDAY- SOMETHING U STATED MADE U MAD...DON'T BRING THIS BACK INTO HER MEMORY, AS THIS WILL TURN HER OFF. GOOD LUCK WITH THIS, AND I HOPE YOU ARE STILL LIVING DRUG FREE- IT IS WAY HARD TO GET OFF THE STUFF-