Happily married mother of 3. My husband is my best friend and a rock star in the sack. I would never do anything to screw that up, but I have had a very chemical reaction to someone at work. I have no intention of doing ANYTHING, but if this person made a pass at me I'm not sure I could resist. I'm actually pretty freaked out by this. Is this normal human nature or is my marriage not so happy?
2007-07-10 18:14:28 · 17 answers · asked by maynsqz2001 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is normal to have attractions to others and it is normal to have chemical and biological attractions to others. But, NOT to act on them. If you can't resist this person if they made a pass then you are already looking for a way out and someone else (other than yourself) to blame. You marriage can be a happy one and you could still have issues. Ask youself this - Why are you attracted to this man? Is he single? How much time at work do you spend with him? How closely do you work together? Are you attracted to his lifestyle or how he makes you feel? Workplace relationships can be very tricky - maybe this guy, because he works with you, understands a whole side you your husband can't because you don't share 100% of "who you are at work" with your husband. I mean - you can't - you work and then you come home - and then you have 3 kids and your husband to deal with - so maybe you are feeling things for a man that knows nothing of you cooking for 3 kids, driving to soccer practice or cleaning the toilet. Maybe you enjoy that attention as is it newer - Maybe try setting aside one night a week as date night for you and your husband. He is your best friend and the sex is good - but you need to maintain a full relationship - flirting, spending time together etc. etc.
2007-07-10 18:26:17 · answer #1 · answered by geminijeanna 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
It's normal to be attracted to someone else but to say your not sure you could resist him if he made a pass at you. If you are happy like you say you are and being well taken care of in the bedroom then this guy from work could make passes at you all day long and the only thing it should do is make you feel good about yourself.Remember there are a lot of women out here today that would love to have a husband like you have maybe even one of his co-workers so unless you want to lose him you better stop taking your co-workers flirting so serious and start looking at your husband like you once did.Your playing with fire and you don't even no it.
2007-07-10 18:43:54 · answer #2 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes it is Normal Human Nature, because you spend most of your time at work and are around this person everyday. It's probably just a fantasy your having in your mind, but something you will definatley regret if it really happened. Remember you said you were happily married and wouldn't do anything to screw it up!! Dosen't hurt to fantasize. Maybe it's a sign you and your husband should be spending more time together, maybe you both need to take a romantic holiday for 2 for a week!!
2007-07-10 18:25:43 · answer #3 · answered by 24Special 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I believe its normal. Just because you get married doesn't mean you won't be attracted to other people (unfortunately, I guess). Most people spend more time with the people they work with then with the person they married. It is normal to build relationships with these people. Flirting with this guy has probably made you feel pretty good because you know your husband finds you attractive but to have someone new coming on to you is kinda an ego boost. Plus you get that excitement from it being someone new. So don't beat yourself up too bad. At least you are being very honest with yourself about your feelings and knowing that acting on them would be very wrong. I would probably try and cool things down abit with him, for one you don't want to be leading him on and second what if he did make a pass, you don't want to be put in that situation that you would have to make any decisions. You love your husband that will last, your attraction to this guy won't. Don't worry.
2007-07-10 18:52:19 · answer #4 · answered by Ad101 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds to me that your marriage is fine but your normal, i have 2 kids and a wonderful hubby but i have been attracted to someone before and i'd never do anything with that person and sometimes i think well, i don't know if i could resist, but i no i'd just never put myself in that position, it's human nature to be attracted to different people, it's how you act on it that matters, so as long as your not cheating and just dreaming, nothing wrong with that.
2007-07-10 18:47:58 · answer #5 · answered by Nita and Michael 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is pretty normal. Physical attraction can be pretty strong. Don't be so sure though that you'd have a hard time resisting advances by this person. If you have a good commitment to your marriage your "moral" alarms will usually go off at the right moment. Just make sure you're never alone with this person and avoid them as much as possible.
2007-07-10 18:19:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Its perfectly normal to have a chemical reaction to various members of the opposite sex. Its not only our bodies involved in mating and marrying, its our minds and hearts, too.
Your body had a reaction to a man that is not your husband and you know that you would NEVER do anything to jeapordize your marriage. That doesn't mean you aren't in a happy marriage, its proof that you are in a happy marriage.
If you weren't still in love with your husband and happy with him, you would have acted on this attraction.
2007-07-10 18:20:09 · answer #7 · answered by Melanie J 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I think it's quit normal for you to feel this way. Besides your only human. But, you already have a family with a husband whom you have to respect. I always say try to stay away from that person and pray. You always find satin, trying to mess a happy home up. Don't let it happen. Fight the temptation with prayer.
2007-07-10 18:37:07 · answer #8 · answered by Promise 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
****. I just posted the same question 15 minutes ago...
I think you and I should talk about it...
Anyways, the same thing is happening to me and it's freaking me out too! And I am not that kind of person! And my husband is perfect too! Write me an email @ kepprausa@yahoo.it
2007-07-10 18:50:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're marriage is not so happy... it's natural to find someone attractive.. but, you've taken it to another level.. you not knowing if you'd be able to resist this person is ... just wrong... maybe you need to examine yourself and how you really feel about your husband and the life you two have together.
2007-07-10 18:19:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋