i was married. we split up a few months ago. i had two kids from a previous marriage, she had one. her daughter's father wasn't in the picture and we had her all the time. my kids came over two days a week. at the beginning of our marriage we went back and forth about another kid. then she said no she wanted to spend time with me after the kids grew up. since i'm 40, i thought that was a good idea. after a while she changed her mind but we were fighting like cats and dogs. she really got verbally abusive and i thought to myself there is no way i'm having a kid if their mother is like this. it runs in her family to be verbally abusive. she quit taking birth control and got pregnant, then immediately wanted an abortion. it was a complete 180 from her. was i wrong not to try to talk her out of the abortion? it just wasn't right the woman had a lot of emotion problems and cused and verbally abused everything in sight.
2007-07-10 15:05:12 · 7 answers · asked by survivor 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There sure is a lot of drama here! Nobody can justify this for you. This is something that you have to reconcile in your own mind.
2007-07-10 15:10:32 · answer #1 · answered by la buena bruja 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, I hate ot be the black sheep here but two wrongs do not make a right. If you really didn't want the child, you could have given it up for adoption.
I hear so many people say that kids stay in orphanages for long periods of time but in reality there is a 10-15 year wait list for newborn babies alone.
2007-07-10 22:18:03 · answer #2 · answered by califdreamer_2000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
With a history like that?!?! No way would I have one with her!
I've married the love of my life.....19 years after I met him. When we were dating we had a child, placed him for adoption. Even now, I'm not having another with him....I love him more than the air I breathe, but no more kids. We've got our hands full with the 2 we have now....lol....and in 5 more years---they'll both be gone---time for us to enjoy each other completely. :)
2007-07-10 23:01:01 · answer #3 · answered by Jennifer S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whats done is done.learn from your mistakes and move on.let this make you a better father to the 3 kids already here.ask GOD for forgiveness and then forgive yourself, you can not change it.i hope she gets the help she needs.good luck to all of you.
2007-07-10 22:19:34 · answer #4 · answered by dixie58 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No... at this age.. dont go for another kid. Spend your time loving all the three children... Your children need lot of love....
2007-07-10 22:10:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anil Kumar T 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
if you really felt that this child wouldn't of had a good life.. then ok.
however, if you know somewhere in you, it would of had a good life, and would have been loved, then you were wrong.
not my place to judge either way.
2007-07-10 22:10:26 · answer #6 · answered by Truth Hurts Get Over It 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Mate I think you did the right thing..........good luck
2007-07-10 22:10:34 · answer #7 · answered by gloria b 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋