for the past few weeks now i have been having thoughts of men and how gays have sex and i cant get that thought out my head i have even got in touch with my feminine side. i keep having dreams where i am in my bra and knickers and im getting 'done' by a few handsome men. i started getting these fantasies when i watched a program based on prison.
but howdo i know for certain that im gay?
2007-07-10 14:40:15 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Only you can know that.
This is what I believe, right or wrong here it is. I believe God mad me Gay for a reason.
Being Gay, Straight, Trans, Bi isn't a choice.
We are all sexual beings. By extension, each of us has a sexual orientation: an enduring attraction — be it sexual, romantic, emotional or affectional — to another person. Sexual orientation, however, varies from one individual to the next and exists on a continuum that ranges from exclusive homosexuality to exclusive heterosexuality. Between these two poles, there exist various forms of bisexuality.
It's thought sexual orientation is likely the result of complex interactions of a number of factors — genetics, cognitive, environmental, and biological.
Sexual orientation is different from sexual behavior: sexual orientation refers to feelings and to self-concept. People may — or may not — express their sexual orientation in their behaviors.
In most people, yes, and their sexual orientation emerges in early adolescence. What's more, there's also considerable evidence to suggest that genetic and hormonal factors play a key role in shaping a person's sexuality.
2007-07-10 14:45:15 · answer #1 · answered by TRACER ™ 6 · 3⤊ 3⤋
Well I think there is a difference between a fantasy and actually being gay. I think it is quite normal to fantasise about sex with same sex partners even if you are not actually "gay". This may sound strange, but I feel this is true. The question you have to ask is whether you would like to spend all your time with a man rather than with a woman, ie do you feel happier living with a man?
I think the best thing is to be open minded. You may be gay, but then you may not. I think time will tell. Just don't take a fantasy, even if fulfilled, as justification that you are gay. Lots of staight men have in fact had the odd homosexual experience at some stage in their lives. Most won't admit to it. It doesn't mean they are gay.
2007-07-12 04:55:21 · answer #2 · answered by Modern Man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a bra( where i am in my bra and knicker) and u think some men are handsome well you wrote stuff that i thought you were a girl well i dont know do you still like girls maybe your bi.good luck on finding out
Homosexual
To dream that you are homosexual (but you are not in your waking life), represents a union with aspects of yourself. It is symbolic of self-love, self-acceptance, and compassion.� If, in your dream, you are not comfortable with homosexuality, then it suggests some fears/anxieties about your masculinity (if you are male) and femininity (if you are female).�You may be experiencing some insecurity in your relations with the opposite sex.�
On a side note, it is common for expectant fathers to have dreams of homosexual encounters.
If you are homosexual in your waking life, then the dream is simply a reflection of your own self.
2007-07-10 14:46:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you aroused by men? You mention dreams of wearing a bra. A lot of men need bras to support big boobs. I do all the time. Do you masturbate and thin k a of a man doing it with you If you are gay you will suddenly realise it and I can assure you there is no going back. It is nothing to be ashamed of and is natural. You will need to make a decision of how to live with it. ARE YOU GAY? Do you want to be gay
2007-07-12 20:12:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what the criteria is for knowing if you are indeed gay. I guess you would have to decide what you tend more towards. You could be bisexual too. Since this has only occured for the "past few weeks" it could be that you have female attraction still and are developing a male attraction as of yet.
2007-07-10 14:48:46 · answer #5 · answered by csucdartgirl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The thing is YOU DON'T until you explore... Many people have these fantasies and don't act on them leading to a life half lived.
There is no harm in exploration at all unless you have a love by your side. If you do then consult with them first then carry on...
Have a free spirit... Live life to the full
2007-07-11 01:36:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No-one can tell you whether you are gay or not, that is something you decide for yourself if it is important to do so. Humans are sexual beings. If it wasn't for religious and social taboos, more men would have sex with men and more women would have sex with women without having to attach a label to themselves and without guilt.
Don't be in a hurry to label yourself, explore your feelings, try new things. You can enjoy sex with both men and women or one or the other without having a need to label yourself. When you fall in love, the sex of your lover will be a reasonably good indicator of your sexual orientation but don't worry about it. Be yourself and don't mind what others think or say.
2007-07-10 14:50:21 · answer #7 · answered by tentofield 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Only you can know that.
This is what I believe, right or wrong here it is. I believe God mad me Gay for a reason.
Being Gay, Straight, Trans, Bi isn't a choice.
We are all sexual beings. By extension, each of us has a sexual orientation: an enduring attraction — be it sexual, romantic, emotional or affectional — to another person. Sexual orientation, however, varies from one individual to the next and exists on a continuum that ranges from exclusive homosexuality to exclusive heterosexuality. Between these two poles, there exist various forms of bisexuality.
It's thought sexual orientation is likely the result of complex interactions of a number of factors — genetics, cognitive, environmental, and biological.
Sexual orientation is different from sexual behavior: sexual orientation refers to feelings and to self-concept. People may — or may not — express their sexual orientation in their behaviors.
In most people, yes, and their sexual orientation emerges in early adolescence. What's more, there's also considerable evidence to suggest that genetic and hormonal factors play a key role in shaping a person's sexuality.
2007-07-10 16:28:20 · answer #8 · answered by Andy R 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It doesn't really mean you're gay, yes the signs are there but this is something you need to resolve yourself. Before going forward into something that you may regret I would advise taking some time to sort out how you feel.
2007-07-10 21:50:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That doesn't mean your gay I have the same problem. It happens to me about every 5 months. I have homoerotic fantasies and dreams and I feel very feminine.
2007-07-10 14:45:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
knowing for sure is only going to happen if you allow yourself the freedom to act upon your thoughts and find a nice guy who will experience some of the more intimate things you are fantacisinf about. Just remember to always play safe and keep it sane.
2007-07-13 07:44:50 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋