When people disappoint you in life is it your own fault for having expectations?

Answer 1

YES!!!

Answer 2

In a sense it is, because all people are free, independent beings who are not obligated to fulfill our expectations. Even if it is a negative choice that the other individual has made, as long as that choice does not directly harm you, then make an effort to be as detached from the situation as much as possible; let that person be, and let him walk his own path, as all people reap the results of any positive or negative choices that they make.

Answer 3

Everyone has some expectations, it is one of the things that humans tend to do. Another thing we tend to do is disappoint one another. I think it depends on the situation who's fault it is.

Answer 4

i agree with The Helper: everyone's got expectations, and when someone let's you down, it's not anyone's fault as much as it's really JUST a disappointment.

However....
I friend of mine used to say, 'Never expect and you'll never be disappointed.'

Answer 5

I don't think it's a matter of being at fault. It is directly related to your perspective though. No one makes you feel any certain way; your reactions are based on what you personally categorize as negative and positive things.

Answer 6

"The dedication to ideas leads, in practice, to an almost involuntary goodwill toward men—or rather to something deeper and more important, which is the root of goodwill: respect. It leads to the attitude, in individual encounters, of treating men as rational beings, on the unstated premise that a man is innocent until proved guilty, that he is not evil until he has proved himself to be; "evil," in terms of this attitude, means closed to the power of ideas, i.e., of reason."

"The respect and good will that men of self-esteem feel toward other human beings is profoundly egoistic; they feel, in effect: 'Other men are of value because they are of the same species as myself.' In revering living entities, they are revering their own life. This is the psychological base of any emotion of sympathy and any feeling of 'species solidarity.'" ("Benevolence versus Altruism" by Nathaniel Branden, THE OBJECTIVIST NEWSLETTER, July, 1962.)

"Since men are born tabula rasa, both cognitively and morally, a rational man regards strangers as innocent until proved guilty, and grants them that initial good will in the name of their human potential. After that, he judges them according to the moral character they have actualized. If he finds them guilty of major evils, his good will is replaced by contempt and moral condemnation. (If one values human life, one cannot value its destroyers.) If he finds them to be virtuous, he grants them personal, individual value and appreciation, in proportion to their virtues."

What is the alternative - to treat everyone as equally contemptible, with the 'exceptions' disappointing you in a 'good' way?

Answer 7

well do your thing but don't no mind