Serious question?

Question

I know,who asks a serious question here and expects to get a serious answer, but ill give it a go: Do you ever feel that no matter how much you give (at anything in life) you never get anything back, and therefore feel plagued by bad luck. A little deep, but does anyone ever experience something like this?

This is a psychological question, not so much personal.

Does it make you feel a bit like your fighting a losing battle?

Answer 1

C, looking at life in this manner is a prescription for disappointment. When you look at your life--all things considered, in a light that holds your self up to unrealistic expectation, then there is bound to be problems. "Luck" is something, which neither has meaning nor scientific substance. "Coincidence", the paranormal and the spiritual world hold more interest in observation and interpretation of tenable thought. What purpose does it serve is an even more fascinating proposition than the question of faith. This attitude toward the inevitability of problems in life is a sure way to open the door to depression or to the precipice of the event horizon of it. There is, and I say this as somebody who is probably older than you and has seen a few things, the distinct possibility that things, people, feelings, etc., that we wish to get in return for our efforts--regardless of what they are, the dimensions, parameters of which can be as closed as the corner of a dark room or as open as the sky; there is in our hearts, dreams, aspirations and the fact that we are able to express our needs, concerns, and desires in the hope of a free society, quite enough--no, very more than I am able to handle at any particular time or endeavor, pursuit--whatever. THAT is in and of itself truly awesome! Think about it with your heart--not your head for just a moment. And there is a sweet redemption in even the mere thought--a breath of air, which holds so much bliss and promise that it is beyond description in words. "Listen more to things than to things that are said, C. And ride on into the sunset with the secret of it's charity in your heart. Hold it there like the treasure of a great story--the stuff that dreams are made of. What's it worth? Priceless!"

Answer 2

Well i think that if you expect good things then you may just get good things! Kinda like karma i suppose. Dont get me wrong, i'm no 'new age hippy' or anything, i just believe that if you walk around thinking that the world and everyone in it is out to get you, then you kinda attract negativness. We all know someone like this; the one everyone avoids because its all doom and gloom with them. The problem is that if you focus on the bad things in life too much, all the positive things dont get a look in. No-one is really plauged by bad luck, its just that sometimes it can seem that way. So what if you didnt get that job promotion, there will be new, maybe even better jobs, at least you are now prepared for it! So what if that cute guy gave you the brush off, tomorrrow is a new day bringing new people with it. So your car has broken down, youre late for work, the kids are screaming at you and your partner dosent seem to care. Well, your fortunate enough to be in the position to have a car at all, some people dont have that luxery. You love your kids dearly and vice versa. By the end of the day you will be home with the man or woman you love/ great friends/ family. Is life really that bad??? So no matter how much you feel you 'give', who's to say you dont get anything back? You have your health, family, friends etc... you know what they say "smile and the world smiles with you"!

Answer 3

Please don't hink I'm preaching, but if you live under the guise that anytime you do something, you're going to be rewarded by some external stimulus, you're sadly mistaken and will be disappointed most of the time. You can not live like that. When you do some thing, any thing, you have to do it because you want to, because you enjoy doing for other people. Life is not putting quarters in a machine and getting a plastic toy every time. Life is complex and difficult and sad as much as it is easy, fulfilling and joyful. Life is what you make it. Shake the bad luck, you have to make your own luck. Until you teach yourself to be independant and strong and stop making excuses for why/when things don't turn out a certian way, get up and make them happen for yourself. You may not succeed the very fist time you do anything, but you have to get back up and try again. That is how you learned to walk when you were a baby! If you feel like you need help, get some. Go to a GP and speak to her/him about how you feel, and ask for a referral to a psychologist or psychiatrist, depending on their recommendation. You have to talk out your issues and concerns or else you'll never be able to deal with them and get past them. Just some advice from someone who has been there. Liberation is a wonderful feeling. Email me if you'd like, I'm good with psychology, but be warned, I give honest answers, I won't coddle you.

Answer 4

I used to feel that way & then I finally started thinking well, it all depends on how you measure luck. I realized that I work around many rich people & all they have are problems money can't fix. I think that's worse than having a really good brain that I have the ability to fix many things with. So I don't need monitary rewards. Self gratification is a good thing. I also have a gift I feel that no money can buy,and no-one can take away from me.When you share it with people it makes you feel good. I worked w/ kids teaching them to ride horses once. Then five years later I did it again, and the women that owned the horses yelled at a kid to quite doing something to the horse. Five years before that I told her the reasoning behind the problem. I realized that for five years at least one hundred kids a year, that went to that camp heard my theory, and I lived on in all those children, and the horses benefitted also. So in that sence I concider myself very lucky. Life is what you make of it. I had to add this... ironically EJ & I were writing our answers @ the same time

Answer 5

The only way to receive it is by giving it away. The problem is that you're always looking for the give back. Part of the give back is the good feeling you get when you've done something good for someone else. It's also the way other good people feel about you when they see you doing good for someone else. The problem may be that you're looking for the wrong reward.
Another thing to watch out for is to be careful what you hope and pray for, because you just might get it. It may not be what you expected.

Answer 6

OK Lady C. Cant say I feel like that,Ive had bad days when everything seems to go wrong, but Ive also had great days to.So couldn't really say I'm plagued by bad luck, just as I'm not plagued with good luck.

Answer 7

If we give to get back then their are hooks attached to our giving. Then it is just selfish giving and for our own personal benefit. Giving without expecting anything in return is actual giving. Does a mother think after years and years of raising her children when are they going to give me back what I gave them. If they do then they are not a qualified mother. The only thing we should expect from anything we do is to please the Supreme Lord. (Also knwon as Krishna, Allah, Jehovah, Vishnu, etc.)That is all that really matters. If we do that then our life's activities are a success. This is the science of The Bhagavad Gita as it is BY BHaktivedanta Prabhupad you can read on line- asitis.com tells the science of the mind, soul, and actions and reactions, and the purpose of human life.

Answer 8

Used to feel that way. Luck is relative to the individuals perspective. I now tend to look for the sunnier things in life and coincidentally (or perhaps not) I experience a lot more luck.

If all one feels is negative, that is all they will see.

Answer 9

Luck does not exist. Work harder work smarter and learn and you will get "luckier". Of course random events do happen but they happen to everyone in a random pattern dependant on exposure to risk. Believing in luck is just abrogating personal responsibility for outcomes.

Answer 10

My bad luck is constant enough that I can rely on it happening. It's never extremely bad, just annoying. Makes things a little more challenging, I guess. Not necessarily a bad thing.