because often people do thinking they can change the person..
2007-07-10 10:26:34 · 24 answers · asked by × 7 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
It depends on what those "things" are. If you are talking about little habits or quirks -- just overlook them and accept him/her for who they are. Don't try to change them.
If they are doing things that may be illegal or harmful to you or themselves, and if they won't stop doing these things that could be destructive--then cut them loose !!
Inevitably, that person would drag you down with them.
2007-07-10 10:49:26 · answer #1 · answered by girlnamedmaria 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It would depend on what the specific things are, and how much they bother me, and how I feel about the person otherwise. If there is good, honest communication, and lots of commonality between you and the person in question, and you are both comfortable and at ease with other, and there is a great deal of mutual respect and caring, then it might be worth letting that person into your life. But, circumstances are different, and you cannot go into it thinking you can change the other person, but only if you think that you can learn to eventually accept the problem behavior! *sm*
2007-07-10 11:00:54 · answer #2 · answered by LadyZania 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't change anyone but yourself. If you think you can, that's an extremely shallow way to live your life. You'll end up full of stress, anxiety and worry all the time...age faster and end up having a very intense and unpleasant life.
There are lots of things YOU cannot control. This is one of them, learn to accept people just the way they are, enjoy them for this, and your life will be much easier.
Love,
Snag PhD
2007-07-10 10:30:46 · answer #3 · answered by snaggle_smurf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just don't think you should go into a relationship,that from the get go "you are thinking you can change this person." If ya can't accept them the way they are, then ya need to move on.
I wish ya the Best of Luck!
2007-07-10 10:50:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Accept the good things, do not accept gifts that will make You indebted to anyone. look at the intentions behind
those things, and If you cant accept them, dont accept that person into your life!
2007-07-10 10:33:34 · answer #5 · answered by Dragon'sFire 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girlnamedmaria said it best as it really does depend on what those things are as little habits and quirks are something we all can get used to be it's quite another matter if there are serious issues that can get you involved and in trouble as well as you very well may have to steer clear of them if that's the case.
2007-07-10 12:13:20 · answer #6 · answered by toughguy2 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO. I don't have the time nor the patient. i found out a long time ago, that being honest with someone up front saves a lot of confusion. if someone is attempting to be my friend i give them "the list" that i expect. number one is respect. two is loyalty, three is never loan money to a friend, four is hands off my man! ha!
2007-07-11 06:06:45 · answer #7 · answered by REALLY 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i never try and change someone because i don't want them trying to change me.
if it's someone i'm just getting to know, no i will not let them into my life if i see i don't like the things they do.
if it's someone i've already let in, i'll try and accept the things they're doing, but if it gets to the point where it's affecting me, they've got to go.
2007-07-10 10:53:40 · answer #8 · answered by frostbite 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I never think of changing anyone and I accept them as they are and if they cant recipricate then I simply toss them aside for they are vile worthless petty humans
2007-07-10 10:30:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not acceptance, it's called "tough love" (look it up on the net). I'll still talk but I stay my distance. I never try to change people.
2007-07-10 10:42:00 · answer #10 · answered by sophieb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋