Theres this one kid, and I want to talk to him real bad. How do I talk to him (no sign language) without him knowing I'm deaf. If you scream in this answer, dont bother because I wont be able to hear you.
2007-07-10 10:11:35 · 20 answers · asked by Bri the Pilot 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
sounds like a tuff situation.sorry.
2007-07-10 10:15:31 · answer #1 · answered by katie c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, millions of people have physical limitations and still have nice normal relationships--what you want to look for is an understanding, tolerant man. Write a note explaining that you are deaf but can communicate your own way if he is willing to be patient and try. This is easy when you think about it--silence is golden--it speaks in a different way. Just your attitude should impress him--if not-- find another guy--you can do it--smile relax and good luck
2007-07-10 10:17:43 · answer #2 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Email or text message.
He's going to find out you're deaf sooner or later. His first impressions of a funny intonation of voice might color his judgment of your intellect. So make the first communications hand written or electronic text and long enough that his first impression doesn't leave him with a false impression of your intellect and does leave him understanding that you're deaf. Then he's going to be prepared when he gets to 1 on 1 direct communication.
As far as I know, there isn't any real stigma about a deaf woman in the minds of males. A guy with hormones isn't likely to pass you over for that unless he's shallow, in which case you're better off without him.
To the best of my knowledge, none of the deaf women I knew (3 so far) fancied me. They clearly have higher standards :(
2007-07-10 10:16:22 · answer #3 · answered by anotherbsdparent 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pass him a note like the first answer suggested. Eventually he will find out you are deaf if you ever want to become friends or more, so now is as good as time as any.
I know you are not explicitly asking this, but maybe you are implying it. So rest assured there are guys out there who would not care about someone's ability to hear. I am not naive to think it might not cause inconveniences at times for everyone involved, but someone who truly cares about you would not think is an issue.
Good luck.
2007-07-10 10:18:16 · answer #4 · answered by Matt G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you wanna start out like that and lie immediately?
If he has a problem with your hearing loss, then why would you want him?
I am Deaf and my spouse is hearing.
Not worth hiding.
However you didn't ask for morals, so if you don't want him to know, you are going to HAVE to talk to him with perfect speech, and understand everything he is saying back.
Good luck on the telephone or if he tries to say something while your head or back is turned.
You'll be busted right quick.
Better to be honest. :-)
2007-07-10 19:19:45 · answer #5 · answered by MJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take from me.Iam also deaf. Date hearing is so hard and most time they dont get it are ignorant and wont be sensitive to what you need. I adivse you find nice deaf guy make this all easier.Deaf understand they have to sing or talk face ot face....hearing dont remember this.Only my experience.But if you really want go through with boy,..just tell him or write that you deaf but like him...but tell him how he can communicate you...
2007-07-12 01:42:21 · answer #6 · answered by Deaf fairy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that there is a way for you to communicate with him without him knowing that you are deaf. The only way that I can think of is if you write him a note and tell him you are interested in getting to know him. Put your IM or some form of communication on it and you can chat that way.
2007-07-10 10:16:04 · answer #7 · answered by ☆Zestee☆ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest from the start. it totally WON'T be a big deal if he's in to you. Don't try to hide it. It will have to come out sooner or later and you shouldn't waist your time trying to pretend you're NOT deaf at first just to tell him finally and him not like you for it he's a lucky guy to have someone interested in him.
2007-07-10 10:16:36 · answer #8 · answered by jedi46300 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well justy talk to him and tell him your deaf and that your very sorry. And also maybe a friend could help him telll you what he wants to say to you. Because if he likes you he should like you for who you are. Good Luck!
2007-07-10 10:16:20 · answer #9 · answered by ~♥Sunflower♥~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chat with him on the internet or via text messages. Why do you want to hide your deafness? How long do you think you can keep *that* up?
2007-07-10 10:14:57 · answer #10 · answered by doppler 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you read lips?
What does it matter that he know if you are deaf? Don't hide it.
2007-07-10 10:15:19 · answer #11 · answered by hottotrot1_usa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋