Who's right, who's wrong, What gives her the right to be mad at me when she did the same thing?

Question

I have a friend who is getting married in a few weeks,she had two showers:1engadgement shower &1 lingerie.I told her I was goin to be able to come to the 1st 1 but not the lingerie shower.My sister ended up going into the hospital so I couldnt make it to the 1st shower,but it turned out that I canceled my vacation so I could go to the lingerie shower.(my 21st bday was the day before the shower).She told me she coudnt chill on my bday bc her friend who was throwing the shower was coming down. I was upset but understood. I had family who came down for my birthday &1 of my presents from them was a $400 dinner &a show package which ended up bein on the same night as the shower. Instead of tellin her I couldt go I went for almost an hour to see her &to drop off her presentThe next morning she text me tellin me Im a horrible friend for not being there&for not offering to help her friend(who I dont kno)plan &setup shower. what gives her the right to be mad and tell me that im not allowed to b

let me also add that I am one of her bridesmaids and one of her best friends and she refuses to take any of the blame, after i appologized for pretty much doing nothing wrong

Answer 1

It's not right and wrong. Sure, she sounds immature and selfish, but she's also about to get married, which has got to be one of the most difficult times a woman can get through (what with all the 'Bridezilla' stuff, mother stuff, cold feet stuff, etc.) If you can, cut her some slack; and remember what sorts of things she's doing that irritate you the most. That way, when you're getting married you can be careful not to do them yourself...

Answer 2

it sounds like shes just upset and kind of stressed out. maybe shes getting cold feet? it sounds like theres a lot on her mind and shes just under a lot of pressure right now. but what she said wasnt right but you could have explained to her that you couldnt be there. if it doesnt get any better by the time shes back from her honeymoon then shes not being a good friend at all.

Answer 3

she doesn't sound like a true friend there for forget her.u
tried your hardest and she obliviously didn't see that. so either talk to her or move on.