Do you ever find yourself missing your "ex"spouse or "ex"partner due to thinking about the memories you shared or places you have gone together, or when you look at your children and remember sacare moments...I have been thinking about my "ex" husband lately and I'm not sure if I just miss him or if I truly just miss the memories we have made...
We both have moved on and are in the last days of our divorce being finalized...I have come to a pont where I don't respect him and have little care about him due to the way he priorities our children last to his "new" life...His constant failed promises and lies is something that I cannot accept..So I'm not sure why I have been feeling like this lately...Could it be that I really miss him or is it just my thoughts and memoreis?? Has anyone ever felt this way or experienced the same thing??
Thanks for your honest answers***
2007-07-10 08:40:09 · 13 answers · asked by Yvette D 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Since your divorce is coming to a close, I think you are mourning the end of a relationship and what might have been. It's OK to mourn your loss. Allow yourself a little time to grieve over the end of the life you had and the dreams you had, then move on. I think it's perfectly natural to feel the way you do right now.
2007-07-10 08:45:22 · answer #1 · answered by leslie b 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is not that you miss your spouse necessarily, but you are looking back at some of the good times. It is an amazing paradox that we live in. We as people tend to remember the bad things our mates do when we are together and not the good things, but as soon as we are divorced or broke up, then we start to remember the good things, the good memories, the fun times, etc. It is human nature and we try to remember all the positive so that we do not feel like we wasted that time and it was not a total loss. It is okay to remember the good times, you had them, treasure them and do not be afraid to make more, it is okay to move on.
2007-07-10 16:02:50 · answer #2 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my God - yes - I have felt that way. We know that this person is not good for us but we miss them and still want to be with them sometimes. We are thinking about the good times and the loving moments and really wish it could have worked out. It is hard and uncomfortable to start a new relationship and the old comforts feel good. The thing is we gave up the relationship because it wasn't right - we weren't being treated the way we wanted to be treated. So - think of the reasons you left to get over it - but don't dwell on them. Good luck - you will be fine.
2007-07-10 16:40:06 · answer #3 · answered by Babycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes when you think about memories that involve another person, you get a taste of the feelings you felt when that memory actually occurred. This is normal, and it is ok to miss the good times, just don't forget why you divorced him and the reasons you mentioned.
Give it some time and you'll find yourself thinking about him less and less.
2007-07-10 15:45:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
There are probably sweet memories. That's why you were with him in the first place, right? Because you enjoyed your time together. Well, things change as people grow older. Time to move on and let memories be memories rather than reasons or excuses to try to make a bad situation work out.
2007-07-10 15:48:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I sometimes think about my ex. I am currently with my new husband. I really believe that I just miss the memories. He is a good person and there will always be a bond because we have 3 teenagers.
2007-07-10 15:44:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have found that regardless of the "issues" my past marriage had I will always hold a special place in my heart for my ex husband. Especially since he is the father of my oldest son, however that doesnt mean that I would ever want to go down the track again with him. Memories will forever be apart of your life and they should always be treasured .. just like your life currently. Ton of hugs Mel
2007-07-10 15:44:14 · answer #7 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You miss the memories, and the how you too "used' to be together. It is completely normal. The thing you said that stuck out to me the most while reading your question was that "you did not respect him". You CANNOT have love without respect. Move on and good luck.
2007-07-10 15:45:08 · answer #8 · answered by Lori M 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think this is a huge problem in today's world. People are so quick to divorce split up, then realize maybe the good times outweighed the bad, which is what you have to ask yourself, guage in a relationship. Does the good outweigh the bad ?
2007-07-10 15:44:27 · answer #9 · answered by DFS 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I have those same feeling often... and I too question if it is because I miss him or the scarce times of happiness. I feel like it's normal to have these feelings & thoughts but it doesn't make it any easier.
2007-07-10 15:42:56 · answer #10 · answered by Queen Bee 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋