I know nowdays that many parents are very proud and happy with their gay children, but it seems this is more true with mothers when it comes to a gay son than with a gay daughter. I can see how moms would love to have a son who dress well, keeps the house neat and well decorated, and enjoys shopping. And the same thing with dads being more ok with a gay daughter than a gay son.
Anyone else notice this?
2007-07-10 08:18:36 · 8 answers · asked by h nitrogen 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
both of my parents are happy with me being gay, and also my boyfriends parents are happy. i have not known many gays who arent accepted by their parents, its unfortunate if they arent, people should look past the sexual preference.
2007-07-10 08:25:35 · answer #1 · answered by Angelo 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Many parents react in differnent ways.
However I think the reason I mother is dissapointed with a gay child is because mothers are often more concerned about grandchildren and feel they will not have them if their child is gay, especially a gay son. Also mothers are more often concerned with the way general society will treat a homosexual child and don't want their kid to suffer that.
I think part of the reason a parent feels less happy if the child is their same gender is perhaps because they feel they have failed as a suitable role-model for that child.
I think dads can be more OK with a lesbain daughter because then they don't have to fear protecting them from men and all that stuff about a fathers fear over his daughters viginity.
2007-07-10 18:17:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, you'd think that even without the extra layer of drama being added by their kids "turning out gay", that parents would unconditionally love all their children. But to be for real about it, this isn't always the case.
How many straight families are there where a father loves his daughter more than his son, or a mother dotes more on her son than she does her daughter? And the different combinations can change, but let's face it: in a family where there's more than one child, sometimes parents do have a "favorite." They may not like to talk about it, but they do. When a child (or more than one) comes out, it certainly complicates matters, but is it really all that different from, say, the firstborn in the family getting more attention than his or her younger sibs? (Or less?)
2007-07-10 15:35:42 · answer #3 · answered by dreamchaser8860 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sterotype. You are pretty much saying all gay people are girly. I am bisexual and I hate shopping and keeping everything neat around house. I am very manly when it comes to being gay.
2007-07-10 15:56:56 · answer #4 · answered by A Journey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I've noticed this. It's pretty sad actually; all parents should love their children no matter what. Sexual orientation shouldn't affect the way a parent feels about their child.
2007-07-10 15:23:00 · answer #5 · answered by Hello 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont think so
i am the gay and smart daughter--
my straight sisters on the other hand all have kids by different daddys and have multiple marriages/divorces etc................
2007-07-10 17:25:46 · answer #6 · answered by slopoke6968 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when i first came out my father was the one who was more accepting then my mother.
2007-07-10 15:31:39 · answer #7 · answered by alex 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Naw, I find that parents of gay kids accept them so they can't say that they raised their kids wrong or were bad parents.
When my stepdaughter told us she was involved in a lesbian relationship, we told her that we loved her but wouldn't support her choice. She had to take responsibility for her own actions in life.
After 6 years she dumped the gay lifestyle and is now engaged to a fine young man, and we couldn't be more proud of her!
2007-07-10 15:24:22 · answer #8 · answered by Dr Jello 7 · 1⤊ 9⤋