In marriage, what's the most important thing to you and your spouse?

Question

If you could make a short list of the most important things to you in your marriage and then list your spouses, what would be on those lists? Are they the same? Where do they differ and why do you believe they differ?

Be honest with yourself. This could be interesting.

Sandy :O)

Answer 1

We've been happily married 36 years, and I guarantee you, some of the key elements of a successful relationship - married or otherwise - are:

1) A long list of common interests; things you both enjoy doing TOGETHER as opposed to separate interests and separate groups of friends.

2) A lot of tolerance for each other's differences. As much as you share in common, you're still going to rub one another wrong from time to time. Be mature and deal with it. Separate the small $h!t from the serious stuff.

3) A sense of compromise; so that you can work out your problems with a minimum of emotional trauma. It's marital negotiation.

4) A sense of sympathy and forgiveness. You're both going to screw up on occasion. You need to be able to forgive, forget, and move on with the relationship.

Answer 2

1. financial stability; it really is a big strain on the relationship when you as a couple can't make ends meet, or when one person is taking the bulk of the financial responsibility. He feels different about this. I guess he feels since I have a higher paying job, this responisbility falls on me.

2. healthy sex life; hey, if you don't get it at home, you'll go somewhere else. when I say 'you' I mean both you and him. When things are not going well in that area, I have wondered about other people, but would never act on it. I'm sure he feels the same.

3. agreement on family; kids should be agreed on, not a suprise or a burden. We both love our son, so no problems there.

I think that's it. We're pretty much 50-50 on everything else.

Answer 3

Friendship, respect,admiration,mutual attraction[physically,emotionally and mentally] and compatability.Oh wait...You asked for THE most important thing....THE most important thing is to know there is no one thing, and even if you have all the important THINGS....without trust and honesty.....you ain't got what it takes.Believe in your love, and each other, bend... but don't break, be steadfast & true, and always be able to look into each others eyes and like what you see.

Answer 4

MINE: Love, care, security
HIS: Love, care, understanding, affection

Our first 2 might look the same, but it's all about how each of us likes to see love and care. I need my love in the sense of freedom, and care in the form of his understanding that I can't give to him when I'm sick. He sees love more as affection and care more as cleaning the house for him. This is what's so hard to comprehend in a relationship--how we can both want the exact same things, but be so different in our approach of finding it!

Answer 5

#1 love
#2 honesty
#3 understanding
#4 communication
#5 fighting (its true sometimes you just have to let it all out not infront of others if possible NEVER infront of the kids
#6 making up before you go to bed every night

Answer 6

We need time together as a couple (this would be on both lists).

We need to be physically intimate (this would be higher on his list than mine, but would be on both).

We need financial security (this would be higher on my list than his).

We need to dream and plan together (on both lists, high up).

We need to grow mentally and spiritually together (both lists).

We need to show love and respect to each other (both lists, respect would be higher on his list than mine).

So those are my immediate thoughts.

SG

Answer 7

being able to communicate about serious things without getting mad and taking everything else as stress free as possible..

Answer 8

understand and respect the needs of your spouse no matter what they are.

Answer 9

Each other and our children. We value each other and our marriage.

Answer 10

TRUST