What is the morally coorect thing to do sexually, when your spouse has been an invalid for 5 years?

Question

In other words, would it be proper to have a sexual relationship with another person if your existing partner can no longer become intimate? If not, how do you best cope with this situation/
Thanks

Answer 1

Talk to your spouse and see how they feel about it. I agree with the guy who said, "so long as my partner was there for me, emotionally and was supportive....."

Everyone has needs, only you and your spouse can come to what is agreeable and what isn't.

Answer 2

A long and respectful discussion of this is necessary with the spouse.

If the agreement at the time of marriage between the spouses was that they would remain faithful, then that agreement remains.

It changes later, only if the spouse agrees to an open relationship willingly.

Deception and betrayal are never honorable traits.

Now, this does NOT consider what is considered spiritually "moral". That depends on one's belief. If you consider adultery immoral, then that doesn't change just because your spouse has physical problems.

Answer 3

No, it's not morally correct or true to your vows to go to another relationship, even if it's "just" physical.

Are there ways that your spouse can please you physically even if your spouse isn't in a position to be pleased in return? Get creative here...maybe some touch with the hands or mouth would help...maybe a toy would help...I don't know...just think about it & talk to your spouse.

When you vowed to be true for better or worse in sickness and in health...this is it! This is the testing ground of your truthfulness in those vows. Don't break them when your spouse needs you the most.

SG

Answer 4

I think this is only true in the case of men. You can have sex with your wife as long as she is coherent. Having sex with a person in a vegetative state would be non-consentual.
So you are a man, how is it possible that your wife can't have sex with you?
Even if she has to just lay on her back for some reason, you can still have sex with her.
I can only think that if men can't get aroused that this situation would be true.
I'd like more details on exactly how a woman couldn't have sex, because I can't think of such a scenario.

Answer 5

Boy - that's a very tough question. One I hope I never have to face because I'm not sure what I'd do.

I do know that if I became incapacitated and as long as my wife stayed with me emotionally and supported me, if she needed to look on the side to get her fix - I would completely understand and in fact encourage it. I love her enough to want her to have a fullfilling sex life. If I can't provide it, then she should do what she needs to do.

I'm not sure if she would feel the same way - but I'd like to think it would be a mutual understanding.

Answer 6

I think you already KNOW what the Moral side of this dilemma is.
Seek councel from your clergy if your truly unsure.

Adultery is defined in the bible (the place to go for the answers to the moral questions).

Answer 7

This is a conversation you need to have with your spouse. It's between the two of you as to what is allowable and what is not.

Answer 8

you talk to him/her and tell them how you feel, if you love them and want to stay with them maybe they will be under standing and let you out to satisfy your needs, if not then you have a decision to make, that being is what you want more important that what you have? there is no wrong decision right and wrong is a matter of perception and every will have their own, but there will be consequences good and bad

Answer 9

You married this person and promised to love in sickness in health, rich or poor, till death do you part. What part of that do you not understand?

Answer 10

dude,,, I'm sure you already have a girlfriend... it's ok man... consider having her family take care of her and go your own way.... That whole till death do you part, dosen't hold true like it used too.....