The other day my wife told me it turns her on when other women flirt with me. She then told me that if I cheated on her she would not be mad as long as I took pictures and told her about the "session" while she & I were making love. This just blew my mind. I have never cheated on my wife, nor have I wanted to, in the 18 years we have been married. My question is should I find someone or not? If so, she said she does't want to know who it is.
2007-07-10 06:50:31 · 38 answers · asked by chrisrbradshaw 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't do it! She may find that after it is done it doesn't turn her on so much after all. Its a fantasy, leave it at that.
2007-07-10 06:54:50 · answer #1 · answered by Morley 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Wife Wants Me To Cheat
2017-01-09 19:09:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as though your wife might have alternate sexual desires. Protect yourself. First ask that the two of you go see a counselor regarding this matter. Secondly, if you're considering this, get her consent IN WRITING or video tape her consent. But I must warn you, you may encounter a slippery slope. There may be no end to her bizarre request-be prepared.
I would suggest that she bring home suitable candidates instead of you compromising yourself and beginning to pursue women outside of your marriage. Tell her if she wants you to do this, she has to set it up-you aren't going to actively pursue this lifestyle. Someone women, surprisingly, value their mates more when they know that other women desire them. It almost confirms their choice-as though since other women want you it's official that she's made the right choice in a mate.
Lastly, tell your wife that if you are to participate in something of this nature, you would prefer it be done properly-i.e. another wife (2nd wife). She can be privvy to your cheating 24-7. If that doesn't satisfy her, I don't know what will.
2007-07-10 07:02:26 · answer #3 · answered by Black I 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
NO I would not cheat at another persons request. What do you want that thrown up in your face later or just to give her reason to cheat? This is silly, if she wants you to cheat and it really turns her on ( i can't imagine) but pretend , you can make up stories. There is a moral issue at stake here. Don't throw 18 yrs away on a whim
2007-07-10 07:20:09 · answer #4 · answered by seymoretowns 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is total speculation, of course, but if I had to guess, I'd say she's trying to feel less guilty about something herself. It can never be good to cheat on your wife. If anything, ask about a possible 3some? the very idea appalls me, to be honest, but apparently it's every guy's fantasy, and you could see if she wants to do that? It sounds like maybe she’s wanting some “spice” in your love life, which is totally fine.
But, don't go find somebody. That could totally backfire in so many ways. I feel kind of proud when women flirt w/ my husband, b/c he's "mine" and I like squashing their fantasies w/ a line like, “Keeping my husband company? Thanks!” But I’m just mean like that. AND that is sooooo far from your wife telling you she wants to hear about you cheating. She either wants to “trick” you so she can at least know about it, or she’s feeling guilty about something.
2007-07-10 07:07:44 · answer #5 · answered by Dj 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seems like you are happy, like this is too good to be true, and guess what...it is. One, she could be just saying things when she's horny, and don't really mean it, or two, she wants to do the same thing. She's getting bored in the bedroom, and 18 years is a long time, hopefully you can find a way to spice up things in that department without resulting to cheating that can destroy a marriage.
2007-07-10 06:57:58 · answer #6 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No! I don't think she has a clue on how that would really affect her. You guys have been married a long time and kudos to you both. I'm sure that after that length of time it can be same old, same old. For a turn-on- how about you give details from a fantasy session? It needs to remain a fantasy only. Good luck.
2007-07-10 06:59:49 · answer #7 · answered by RSJ 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't... its too easy for you to develop feelings for the other woman because of that "high" we seem to get when relationships are new... it may seem like a good idea but in the end, there are too many emotions involved and can potentially ruin your marriage.
My ex-husband cheated on me and let me tell you- its the WORST feeling... I wouldn't wish it on anyone (even if your wife WANTS you to do this).
All in all, its your decision... I would just think out ALL the pros & cons (with your wife).
2007-07-10 06:59:55 · answer #8 · answered by amc8680 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
So you are going to have sex with someone who could give you god knows what, so your wife can get off on it? How is the other woman going to feel when you say "hey I am just taking photos so my wife can get turned on?" I think she needs counselling either that or standing on a street corner. Why would you want to do that? what happens if you get more involed with the other person? Tell her no, it could be a trap!.
2007-07-10 07:01:49 · answer #9 · answered by Mama~peapod 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well your wife needs her head examined and no you should not cheat on her, it sounds to me like she could be cheating on you and she is trying to get you to cheat on her so that you guys can be even, but if I were you no I would not cheat it is not good. And this is the first time your wife has mentioned this in 18 years, I think she is cheating on you.
Good Luck
But whatever you do, Dont Cheat!
2007-07-10 06:55:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
That there is playing with fire. If she ends up not feeling the way she thought she would about it, it could destroy a good marriage. Maybe you could "pretend." Make up a "session" with another woman, and tell her about it while making love. I imagine it would have the same effect for her, without the danger that would come with actually doing it.
2007-07-10 06:58:18 · answer #11 · answered by Lady M 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋