Do you believe gays should be able to adopt?

Question

I believe that a child should be raised in a house that has a man and a woman, not two men or two women intimately invlolved. Won't the child get the wrong idea or be teased at school? Are gays thinking of the welfare of the child? By the way, didn't God make man and woman so the child would have a man and woman that are intimate raising them, not two men or two women? Will homosexuality be forced on the child? What will the child think when their best friend has a "mommy" and "daddy?"

I reported you Courtney, how do ya like that?

Answer 1

I couldnt agree with you more. I think it would definately cause some emotional harm and especially at a young age. They dont understand why and they will be forced to think that it is O.K. God made a woman for a man for a reason and that is the way God intended us to live, according to the word. I commend you for posting this question becuase I am sure you are going to get an earfull for it. Kudos!

Answer 2

I don't know about the rest of my peeps out in the gay community...but I sure am getting sick and tired of hearing "God made a man and a woman" and "God" this and "God" that when it comes to homosexuality.

Why can't anyone answer a question based on statistics, factual information, logic, scientific evidence, and equality?

There is NOTHING wrong with gays adopting. There is NO evidence that suggests that having gay parents will negatively affect a child. And don't even try to suggest that the kid will "become" gay if he has gay parents. I've already answered the "are we born gay" question in another section.

I agree that the BEST thing for a child would be to have a mother and a father. (Provided they are loving and caring parents...not abusive crackheads) But we are not living in a world where everyone has that. How many kids actually live in the BEST possible scenario? What are the statistics?
For all of you that say that gays shouldn't adopt because kids need a mother and a father...well what about all the single parent families? If a straight woman's husband dies in a car crash are you going to suggest that her kids be taken away because they need a mother AND a father?
Would it be better for two straight people who molest or abuse their children to raise a kid rather than two gay people in a loving, stable relationship?

Logic, people!!

Answer 3

I definitely believe that there are things that a child can learn from a father that he cannot from a mother. Having an absent father or mother figure can sometimes lead to emotional difficulties later in life.

However.

Given the choice between having a missing father figure and having one that is abusive, or one that really wouldn't have anything to teach or give, including love and compassion, I would make the decision to allow the father to be missing, as in the case of single mothers and gay couples. My father, for instance, is a high school drop out and an alcoholic, who never really earned an honest day's pay - it's unlikely I would have turned out the way I did had he been part of my life. So to say "children" turn out "better" with a mommy and daddy is insulting not only to children, but to mommies and daddies that have to go it alone.

Not all children are like this, however. Sometimes there is both a wonderful father and a wonderful mother in their life. That is not the case anywhere near 100% of the time, however, and there should be alternatives to prevent that child from emotional abandonment issues.

Answer 4

Of course I do. Homosexuality obviously does not come from "being forced on the child" from the parents. If that were the case it would not exist in the first place. After all, straight people have homosexual children. If you are really thinking of the welfare of the child, which you aren't, then you will want all children to be raised in loving homes period. That would include children without homes. It matters little what genders the parents are. It matters much that there is love in the home.

Answer 5

>Do you believe gays should be able to adopt?

Yes, I believe that in the end it should be permitted for homosexual couples to adopt children. However, ALL couples who want to adopt children, or even have children of their own for that matter, should have to pass a test for parenting ability; it doesn't seem moral to me for people to have a baby and then raise the kid in a bad environment. This system would serve both to raise the general quality of life level for kids, and would also help combat overpopulation at the same time. What's not to like?

>Won't the child get the wrong idea or be teased at school?

The only reason a child adopted by a homosexual couple would be teased by other children is because the other children are still intolerant of and biased against homosexuality. And what's the best way to combat this intolerance and bias? You guessed it: To cease discrimination against homosexuals. Discrimination on the basis of discrimination is just a vicious cycle that doesn't do anyone any good.

>Will homosexuality be forced on the child?

It is unlikely that the child would be homosexual. They would probably have only a slightly higher chance of being homosexual as would a child raised by heterosexual parents. Homosexuality is largely determined by genetics, so the 'rubbing-off' factor isn't very large.

>What will the child think when their best friend has a "mommy" and "daddy?"

Ideally, they wouldn't particularly care. Again, you're basing your support for discrimination on the fact that discrimination exists, which is a vicious cycle.

Answer 6

So if a man and a woman have a child and the woman dies, then that man should have his child taken away unless he hurries up and gets married again, right? Kinda the same idea, there isnt a woman in the home with the man, so he shouldnt be able to raise the child.
You can't "catch" gay. you are born that way. And if that is the way you think it is, how do all these straight people raise gay children?
My friend whom is gay, has a straight child? According to your theory, how is that possible?

Answer 7

if the statistics are right, more than half the children raised today come from divorced homes, one parent raising them, and for the most part those single parents do a fine job, and the kids have no problems with sexual orientation. I think gays, straights, bis or freeking martians should be able to adopt unwanted children if they can give them a loving a stable home. Have you seen the criminals that come out of our foster home system lately? Get a grip. A child needs loving parents, what their sex is has less than nothing to do with raising that child.

Answer 8

Ah so therefore by your reasoning if you live in a Higher Crime area you shouldn't have a car or anything else that will tempt others to steal.....
Your belief in Mythology means absolutely nothing to anyone other than those who believe in it, it should have no Legal Bearing on any laws.
YES homosexuals should have the right to adopt. Gays and Lesbians have been proven in studies to be every bit as capable of raising children that are just as healthy and well adjusted as those raised by heterosexual couples.

Answer 9

I worry more about the gay kids whose parents try to force heterosexuality on them, then disown them or condemn them if they don't conform.
I'd rather have one loving gay parent with a brain than a couple of straight bimbos.
Not all gay would make good parents, and not all straights would make good parents.
Ideally a child has two parents, and lots of love from males and females that are family and friends of family, but it's better to have one parent or a gay couple than to bounce around from foster home to foster home, orphanages, juvenile centers or whatever.
I would also guess that a gay adopting "father" would be 1000 times less likely to molest a little girl than a hetero man, and having grown up with people trying to force a foreign sexuality on him, he would not want to force anything on his child, male or female..
One thing, though, that's unfortunately true:
I think it's important where they live. If they live in a sophisticated city or town, the child wouldn't have to deal with the hate, exclusion, and teasing that he would in a more conservative place. Of course children can be cruel to each other, but they learn their cruelty and prejudices from guess who???
A gay adoption would be just fine in New York City or Vermont, or Portland OR, or Madison, Wisconsin,
but I wouldn't advise it in Mississippi or Kansas or somewhere they just wouldn't be rational about it.

Answer 10

Let's see....Who's a better mom and role model right now; Britney Spears or Rosie O'Donnell?

Having genitalia that make one capable of reproducing does not insure that the person has any skill or passion for parenting at all. I know two gay men who raised FIVE adopted kids who are all 1)college graduates,2)in good jobs,3)heterosexual;
those odds are better than most of the US population.

Your question was designed to elict a response and here it is:
It would be hard to be raised in a family with two gay parents if one is surrounded by backward superstitious neighbors whose only comfort in life is in being 'superior" to someone with an even lower social station than their own.

PS...heterosexual families produce more gay children than gay ones.

Answer 11

Nothing is wrong with being raised by gay parents. a child should get adopted regardless. its better for a child to get adopted by homeosexual couples than to stay in the system all their lifes. Men and women are the only one who can have children but it doesn't mean their the only one who can raise children. yes they are thinking of the welfare of the child. and No the child won't be forced to be homesexual. and yes their probably going to get made fun of because of it. but then some kids would think its cool the child has two mommy's. I don't agree with being gay. but they should have the same right in raising children has heterosexual people have.