I love being single and doing as I please and having my home a certain way and not having to answer to or provide for anyone but myself....what is so wrong with this in societys eyes?
2007-07-10 05:30:26 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i'm 40 and had a live in for a few years and hated it !
2007-07-10 05:35:45 · update #1
No you are not selfish. You KNOW what you want out of life, it is YOUR life and you need to do what is best for yourself. Not everyone on this planet was made to be married and have children. Actually you are very smart in not wanting to get into something that would wind up making everyone miserable in the end. Yes there are those who will call you selfish but as long as they're not paying your bills what the hell do you care?
2007-07-10 07:44:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not selfish at all. If you want to be single then do so. Just don't lead anyone on and make them think your involvement with them is more than it is or that it's going somewhere permenant. Otherwise, go on and have your fun. Just remember that if you change your mind in a few years it'll be that much harder to find a suitable wife. Any young woman who'll marry you will do so for stability and financial reason and an older woman will have baggage, most likely grown children and a divorce.
2007-07-10 12:40:48 · answer #2 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, there's nothing wrong with that! Everyone is entitled to do whatever it is that makes them happy in life. As long as you don't lead women on to think they're going to be anything special, than don't worry about others think. As for society's eyes? Ignore it. I'm actually getting married soon, and that's my choice, and I'm happy with it (I'm 30), and for years before this all I ever heard was "your clock is ticking" or "why are you happy alone?" so you see, everyone has a comment for everything, and thinks everyone should act or look a certain way. I say to hell with it, diversity in people is what makes them so special! Kudos to you for knowing what you want!
2007-07-10 12:43:26 · answer #3 · answered by Starry Eyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me, there's nothing wrong with it. At least you know what you want and aren't dragging some poor woman's heart through it. That would be the only thing wrong......it's fine that you know you don't want a wife and kids....but just be sure whoever you date knows that too! Alot of women, even modern women, SAY they don't want to get married but after dating a guy for 5 years....they start to get the itch. You WILL be wrong if you don't make it clear to any ladies that you never, ever want to get married and have kids. Most women will think they can convince you otherwise.
2007-07-10 12:35:57 · answer #4 · answered by bestadvicechick 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing but you're going to have a major problem with most women. Most women like to settle down and think that a man can be 'convinced' to see it the same way. If you are happy that way, then stay that way and frankly, avoid dating at all costs. Once a woman's been out with you a couple times, she's probably thinking about commitment on some level.
Enjoy your life but realize that most people don't see it that way!
2007-07-10 12:34:34 · answer #5 · answered by Kitten 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Age should have nothing to do with it. If you do not want to have children, then bravo to you for not having any. Children deserve to have parents that want them and not just because others think that is a marker in life. Same thing goes with marriage, if you do not want to be married, then don't get married. If you are happy being single and no kids, then that is all that matters. Shoot, if you do not want to get married and do not want to have kids, I think it would be very wrong to get married or have kids. You know what you want and do not want, so if other people do not like it, that is because they envy the fact that you know what you want and you have it. Good for you.
2007-07-10 13:06:19 · answer #6 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you will find that the bigger the city the more accepting people are of women remaining single and childless. I am from a decent size town (50,000 people) and work in a very small town (just over 600 people, but many out of city limit).
I got engaged at 20 and decided to wait to marry until I was out of college.
People in the city were shocked and concerned that I was too young.
People in the small town couldn't understand why I waited.
After I got married at 23
People in the small town congratulated me.
People in the small town wondered why I wanted to wait to have children.
2007-07-10 12:47:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's pretty much the definition of selfish - doesn't mean there's anything inherently wrong with it though. You just can't bring someone else into that, which means you'll live a solitary life. Most people can't do that, but some thrive off it. Whatever works for you.
2007-07-10 12:39:02 · answer #8 · answered by squirrely 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what you want. Don't worry what others think.
But I ask my older friends who will take care of them when they are sick, who will be there for you when your 70 or whatever age it is.
I am single,39, and I hate it. I do enjoy being alone when I won't,but just recently I was very sick and did some thinking and found out I just don't want to be alone anymore. I would want someone there to pamper me and give me water or a cold drink of soda, or hell just to be there for me.
Do you have any older friends who are single? Ask them how it feels when they are sick. Who do they call on?
The best in all that you do.
2007-07-10 13:17:28 · answer #9 · answered by cajunlady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find it interesting that you placed this question in the married/divorced section. Why not the single's section? And, why all the guilt about not wanting a wife and kids? It's your life, we don't care what you do with it.
2007-07-10 13:45:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋