after a while i asked him why he didn't kiss me like he used to.
he said something about germs and how he doesn't like drinking and eating after anyone and that kissing like that was the same thing. but that no longer makes since because he has gotten to where he will eat and drink after me and our 7 year old. hell even drink rain water off the roof mixed with flowers and who knows what else on a dare from our daughter. i don't get it. i haven't pushed it because i don't want to cause more problems, and id kind of like for him to want to. i cry every time i think about it.
2007-07-10 05:13:45 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I dont have any advice, as Im in a similar situation. :(
It wont make you feel any better but youre not alone.
2007-07-10 05:16:43 · answer #1 · answered by PenguinsWife 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kiss Me Passionately
2016-10-15 03:24:48 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to "Domestic Bliss" sweetie. My husband and I have been together 7 years and married almost 6. We've got 3 girls between us--two are 10 and one is 5. With the three of them, our jobs, housework, and everything else going on in our daily lives, who really has the time for kissing? I honestly can't remember the last time my husband and I had a "passionate" kiss. Anyway, all that mess takes up too much time. I've got to get some sleep -- so let's get it on real hard and be done with it. As long as the end result is satisfying, I'm really okay.
2007-07-10 05:25:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I understand your feelings of frustration. Many people do not have passionate natures but know that is a big way to begin a relationship. Once the relationship is solid (like marriage) they go back to their real nature.
Does he hold your hand and do other romantic things? Talk to him about how you feel and how upset you are. Figure out the real reason he feels this way. Open up and then let him open up and no matter what he says don't get angry because it will keep him from opening up again in the future.
God Bless
2007-07-10 05:27:25 · answer #4 · answered by TheSafetyMan 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sweetie if it hurts you that bad that you want to cry every time you think about it you need to address the problem with the hubby he acting like a hooker who won't kiss one of her johns you know like there is no emotional connection for him with you.. Is there any chance he is seeing any one? some men really don't have a clue about us women he needs to get help..
2007-07-10 05:27:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess you have been married for about 7 years or 8? Anyhoot sit him down and talk to him. No kiddo no t.v. just wife to hubby face to face. Let him know "we need to talk" and let him choose the time. Then at least he won't feel like you had all the say so in what when why and how. Ask him what's in your heart it will come to you. Tell him your confused and it hurts. Anybody who hears from a loved one "it hurts" is going to try to find out what hurts and where, and then try to correct or end whatever it is/was that is hurting. I try to protect the women in my life (daughter, mom, etc,etc) so if one of them told me "it hurts" my world just shut down to try and solve their problem cause there's a 50/50 chance I'm what's hurting them.
So sit him down or whatever is comfy and talk, not about work not about the kids nothing but you and him and make sure when you tell him "we need to talk" that you ask him to choose when and even where (as long as it makes sense...uh not a sports bar etc.)but then you tell him my only rule is no distractions we need to talk about you and me and I want it to be exactly that...you and me.
Good luck hope it helps, remember most men like it put straight to us don't beat around the bush, uh no we can't read minds either, and please no cell phones or at least silence them.
Hope it helps I truely feel for you. Lack of the C's end relationships.
Commitment
Communication
2007-07-10 05:33:44 · answer #6 · answered by trucknmedic 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That is too bad, I would feel very hurt as well. When I didn't show passion towards my now ex wife, it was because I was angry and spiteful over something.
2007-07-10 05:20:19 · answer #7 · answered by diamondbullet66 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Those sound like excuses to me.
If he won't talk about his feelings maybe you should tell him how it's making you feel and ask him what you can both do to make your relationship better.
I hope it works out for you x
2007-07-10 05:31:49 · answer #8 · answered by a nickname 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He's gotten comfortable in your relationship and may feel that he doesn't have to make the effort to do it anymore. I don't know what to tell you except to try to discuss it as calmly as possible and DON'T cry or start a fight because that'll make it worse.
2007-07-10 05:17:15 · answer #9 · answered by Kitten 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I dont know why it happens after marriage . It happened to me . I would say he is just going to have to get his courage up and start again . I had to force myself to kiss wife since she wont initate even with sex. She likes it when I kiss her now . ok its not always passionate kisses sometimes its just a quick kiss to tell her I love her . She loves it !
2007-07-10 05:18:50 · answer #10 · answered by wishingstar5555 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you have sex? It gets old trying to initiate passion with someone who doesn't.
2007-07-10 05:19:20 · answer #11 · answered by Freakzilla 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋