Single women go to the gym and get boob jobs, etc., but married women don't nearly as much or as often. I see these poor married guys on the beach, who look like they take care of themselves, with their fat, droopy boobed, no make-up wives sitting next to them, and they look sooooo sad!
2007-07-10 04:49:36 · 22 answers · asked by SvetlanaFunGirl 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't fall into that catagory. My husband is incredible looking with washboard abs and beautiful arms/legs and, me, well, my stuff is "cut" also. I have kept my boobs upright and my legs toned. I want to keep the man I know!! He is my best friend but I agree with you when you say that you do see alot of one sidedness when it comes to physical fitness but you can see it both ways. YOu probably notice the women falling apart more because you are a woman but it is fairly equal.
I think a healthy relationship requires that both partners maintain to the same level of fitness in order to enjoy the same things in life. To some, letting it all go is acceptable. For us at the ages of 42 and 44, it's not.
Oh, I've had 4 children also so I don't think that should be an excuse for people.
Sandy :O)
2007-07-10 04:54:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Not all women let themselves go but have to agree that see more women fall into this category then men. Think the ones that let themselves go do not care what they look like or want to look nice for there husbands. They figure that once they got married no need to keep looking good. Which is a big mistake because men are very visual creatures and thus when the swan turns into a pig the end is not far off.
Would like to add that this does not mean that men will drop a women that has just "aged". We men see the beauty in our women as they age but if they are just letting themselves go that is entirely different story.
2007-07-10 11:55:54 · answer #2 · answered by QCCP 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Once they put the ring on they think they no longer have to try anymore because they are now legally attached. I see the same thing. I think if the women took care of themselves their husbands would be less likely to cheat. Instead they don't take care of themselves, get divorced then go to the gym, watch their diet, start to look good again and then the whole cycle starts over. Remember taking care of oneself does not end when the ring goes on.
2007-07-10 13:42:18 · answer #3 · answered by mktmonitor 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, life happens....
i always took care of myself and my body, until i was in a car wreck a couple years ago, and having issues with my leg. i've gained some weight, and believe me, it's difficult!
i was married with two kids and had a house to take care of, plus i worked. it was so difficult to make time for myself, but i tried to keep in shape. once in a while i'd have to fight the battle of the bulge, but mostly, i did ok.
it seems as if when people are married, the woman gets to do most of the home-life work -- cooking, laundry, cleaning, taking out the trash, chasing kids around, taking kids to their sports functions, and shuffling finances, etc. meanwhile, most of them work outside of the home these days.
for many, there is not a lot of time to exercise and even eat properly.
plus, pregnancy and childbirth does a number on some women's bodies... it's not always that they are slobs or they are lazy. it's lack of time to put effort into themselves, because they are busy taking care of everyone and everything else... i know, i'm 50, i've been there, done that!!
boobs droop after childbirth (but i do think that a padded bathing suit top does work wonders!).
there is a lot more to a person than their physical appearance, and for some, it doesn't matter much. for me, it always did... i like to look my best...
saying that, i'm sure that on the inside, these women are mostly wonderful people whose husbands love them regardless and who would give you the world on a silver platter if they could.
for the unhappy man, he can leave if he likes.
take care.
2007-07-10 12:00:44 · answer #4 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why wear makeup on the beach? Those married women on the beach used to work out in the gym and take care of themselves. After getting married, in some cases, the woman's priorities have changed. Her lifestyle is different. It's not centered on her anymore. she has a husband, kids, job, housework to take care of and forgets about how she looks. when you are feeding others, you tend to eat more yourself. there are those women who have the luxury, after marriage, of going to the gym, going to the beach, taking time everyday to work on their looks, but that usually happens when the kids are grown and out of the house. then there is more money for the husband and wife to do things they want to do. all I'm saying is being single gives a woman more time to take care of herself, and being married, there is less time to think about herself.
2007-07-10 12:02:28 · answer #5 · answered by The pink panther 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it may be the fact that they are not single and dont care enough to make themselves look good for their spouse. I think that is a bad idea. I am about to get married and i never want to be one of those fat women on the beach that look more like a whale then a women!!!
2007-07-10 11:53:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Dearest fun girl,
Please stop contributing to the problem by overgeneralizing. Women, single or married know that most men are visual. We also know that men of quality care more about what's on the inside. The smart woman takes care of her appearance and also nurtures strength of character.
2007-07-10 12:00:26 · answer #7 · answered by shine_radiantstar 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you can blame the women for the affects of gravity over time, but I know what you mean. It's not just women though. A lot of men get complacent after they get married. They stop being romantic, stop wooing their wives, stop communicating. So it goes both ways. If we love our spouses we will try to look AND ACT our best for them and not take the person or the relationship for granted!
2007-07-10 11:55:28 · answer #8 · answered by historybuff33 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
There is more to a woman than just boobs, honey. Those ladies sitting on the beach most likely have whole lot more responsibility on their shoulders. Most of them probably take care of their families needs not their selfish vanity needs. I guess when you get old and gray instead of having your children over to visit you can visit with your perky erect boobs. Grow up!!!!!!!!
2007-07-10 11:58:17 · answer #9 · answered by Lue R 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When you are married you get comfortable in the relationship. You tend to take things for granted. Also when you are married your spouse is suppose to be your best friend. Beauty is only skin deep and your suppose to love your spouse for better or worse, richer or poorer etc.
2007-07-11 08:17:31 · answer #10 · answered by moose 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋