I do not trust my wife as she has lied to me. I cannot t live with her neither I cannot live without her. wht shd I do ?
My negative point is I think from heart and I am stop temper. I am having mood swings. I really need help. I am not able to eat and has not sleep more than 3-4 hours on an average for last 6 weeks. I am alone please help me.
2007-07-10 04:45:12 · 7 answers · asked by ADAM 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thank you all for answering. Yes, everyone is correct that I may need professional help and I need to talk to my wife. I did had long conversation with my wife but everything goes waste. This is what I am thinking to do.
1. I do not think I can marry again or can comit to anyone.
2. I will wait for the right time to leave her. She is prepare for a divorce. I want to leave her when I am prepare and not when she is prepare.
3. I will hurt her emotionally and leave her when she need me the most as she lied to me for last 10 years. I do not believe in revenge but I do have some selfrespect and I have to make her understand as what she did was WRONG and she cannot be forgiven
4. I will cheat on her
Am I doing is right ?
2007-07-10 05:40:43 · update #1
Yes you absolutely can live without her, but it's okay that you choose not to. However if you know she lies your relationship will never be very strong without trust.
Get yourself some professional help for your issues and maybe in there you'll get a clearer picture of what's best for your life and if you should stay and try to work on things or move on.
2007-07-10 04:48:47 · answer #1 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the relationship is not working, then what choice do you have than to move on?
Being that you do not trust your wife, how happy could you have been in that marriage?
The reason you feel that you cannot live without her is because you are not moving on.
You need to tell yourself that you're sick and tired of feeling this way.
Pick yourself up, get yourself put back together and find a woman that will appreciate you for the person that you are.
I know it's hard, but so is living like this.
You just have to put your mind to it, and go enjoy life.
Be happy :)
And always put your smile on.
I wish you the best.
2007-07-10 11:51:40 · answer #2 · answered by MommaBear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need to have a serious talk with your wife. I mean if you feel so strongly about not trusting her but wanting to be with her, you are going to have to find a medium in the road.
You can't continue to live like this, it is not healthy. also you may need to talk to someone else about your feelings. Just to give you a chance to get your thoughts together before you talk to your wife. Good Luck!
2007-07-10 11:59:27 · answer #3 · answered by sparkling_apple 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have lost trust then your only option is to move on. You HAVE to move on and give yourself some time to clear things up in your mind. If you don't trust her now you will never learn to trust her again. Stop thinking about now and think about 5 years from now. See yourselft following her around and looking over her shoulder. YOU cannot live that way.
2007-07-10 11:49:08 · answer #4 · answered by Yes I am here!! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have issues you need to fix before you even think about having a relationship with anyone.
Get your depression under control. Then look at dealing with other things.
2007-07-10 11:48:56 · answer #5 · answered by Collette L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go get therapy. Maybe check yourself into a hospital for people like you. Yahoo Answers can't help you now.
2007-07-10 11:49:46 · answer #6 · answered by shellylori 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call a therapists and fast.
2007-07-10 11:50:32 · answer #7 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋