Is this normal? I have only been with one woman my entire life and she has "played the field" already. We are both 26. For some reason I never dated in high school or college and she has had a few boyfriends. She wants to get married and I do love her but I feel like I should date around to see what else is out there. Should I do this or just stay with this girl for the rest of my life? Does anyone know any guys who have married the only girl they have ever been with? Were they happy? Thanks for any help.
2007-07-10 04:39:39 · 19 answers · asked by Mike 1 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Variety is the spice of life
2007-07-10 04:42:53 · answer #1 · answered by havanadig 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, I come at this from the girl's perspective rather than the guy's, but if it helps: I ended up marrying the only guy I had ever dated. He had had (I think) 5 girlfriends before me, only one of them very serious. 21 years after we met, we're still married (with a son), love each other, have been mutually faithful, and consider ourselves happy together, allowing for the bumps in the road that come with any long-term relationship.
What I would VERY STRONGLY advise you to do is wait. As in, wait a long time! I married at 26 and although I don't regret my choice of partner, I feel I was lucky not to--I just hadn't had enough life experience to judge whether my husband was really the one for me. I am witnessing right now the divorce of my best friend, who got married even younger than I did. Her entire adult life has been spent with the man who is now leaving her--thus, her entire adult life is in the process of disintegrating in front of her eyes. I would not wish the pain she is going through right now on my worst enemy, let alone my bestest oldest friend.
So stay with your girlfriend--date her exclusively--have a "serious" relationship if it seems to be what you both want. But my advice is to wait at least until you both are nearing 30 to make it official. You might be saving yourselves enormous heartache by giving one another the chance to make absolutely sure you're making the right choice.
I wish you both all the best!
2007-07-10 11:55:23 · answer #2 · answered by Leslie D 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ya know it all depends on the person. One person can tell you that you are making a mistake and others can tell you that you are doing right. Unfortunately you need to decide this one. However, if you have to question whether or not if you want to marry this girl then you need to really need to do some soul searching. It should all come naturally, no doubts. Re-evaluate your situation and go with your gut instincts. Don't let her pressure you into marriage either b/c it will just be a disaster in the long run. Good luck.
2007-07-10 11:45:25 · answer #3 · answered by Worldtraveler 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you know the answer already. You may only meet people who you have nothing in common with but then you may meet someone who complements your personality and likes to do the same as you do. If you are second guessing yourself in this area don't get married. You have to know for sure. But then if you let your girlfriend go and never meet anyone again and become a lifetime bachelor you'll bemoan letting her go all your life and be a regretful loser. LOL
2007-07-10 11:45:30 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
vwell if you lobe her and she really loves u then sure why not. if u want to play the field then it sounds like u might be unsure wether u love her enough to marry her, if thats the case, dont be disappointed if u dont find the one for awhile and be prepared to let go of someone who loves you and except the fact that if u do break up and date other people, and things dont work as u planned, she may not come back to you! but yes there are other people who have married their one and only and have been very happy. if u feel she is the one then do it, it doesnt matter how many people u have dated, its who makes u really happy....good luck!
2007-07-10 11:46:34 · answer #5 · answered by baby_love_marybeth 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Most people I know that got married to their high school sweetheart or 1st girlfirend in their 20s are divorced and living their 2nd childhood in their late 30s or 40s. And I mean a high percentage, almost 100%
Best to experience life a little before settling down.
2007-07-10 11:42:44 · answer #6 · answered by Kiss My Shaz 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think that you need to experience life a little, better to do it now than to get married and end up having an affair if you find you still fell the need to (try something new). Believe me I've been through it and it didn't turn out pretty.
But remember that's just my opinion.
Take care ;0)
2007-07-10 11:47:10 · answer #7 · answered by me 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't toy around, you might lose the one and only girl that ever wants to be with you.
Its not simple as just dating any girls we know and it'll work out like a magic, it doesn't. What makes you think there are other girl that wants to marry you too? You may not have a better choice out there.
2007-07-10 11:44:01 · answer #8 · answered by Hornet One 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
well i do know a couple that got together and got married and have 25 years now, so it can work, only having one girlfriend is wierd and it depends on how long you have been together, my wife and i have 3 boys and been married 15 years,, you just have to understand there will be fights and that is just life
2007-07-10 11:51:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't base your decision on how many people you have or haven't dated. Is she a person you could see yourself with. Does she have all of the qualities you would ask of a mate?
2007-07-10 11:45:26 · answer #10 · answered by Dr. Worm is back 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋