Just moved in with my fiance, to be married in less than 2 weeks and we can't sleep in the same bed?

Question

I'm exhausted! I have no idea how to remedy this problem. Is it just us that cant seem to get any sleep when sharing a bed or is this a common thing that happens? I'm about to drop. Any stories, words of wisdom. Thanks a lot :)

We've been together for 5 years, we are comfortable together. I think it's the new apartment. I really need to get used to my enviornment and having someone else there, kicking, snoring, etc.

Answer 1

You just may be tense with the wedding close. My husband and I can't sleep together either. We both snore, I'm a restless sleeper and he kicks. After several months of trying and walking around like zombies, we had to admit that although we don't like the situation, we need sleep. If you can't adjust, you have to do what you have to do. There's plenty of cuddle time outside of sleeping!

Answer 2

I was so used to sleeping diagonally across the middle of my bed. It took some getting used to having to sleep 'on my side' and sharing a bed regularly with someone else. I wasn't used to the snoring either... honestly, I snore some but I don't hear it so it never bothered me. His snoring would keep me up but after a little while it actually helped me fall asleep. when he's out of town, the room is too quiet and the bed is too cold (he's naturally a very warm person). If you don't have enough room I seriously recommend getting a bigger bed. Even though we've been together a while, we still have trouble sleeping in a full size bed~ we both need wiggle room!

Best of luck, it'll get better before you know it.

Answer 3

Why can't you sleep in the same bed? Because you don't like another person there? Because he snores? Because he hogs the covers? Once you get to the root of the problem, you can fix it.

If you're just not used to sharing your bed, this is actually fairly common. A lot of couples who have been married for decades have separate beds and sometimes even rooms. It's also hard in the beginning, when you're just getting used to each other.

Nine times out of ten, it just takes getting used to. Pretty soon you'll be saying you can't sleep without him in bed with you.

Good luck, and congrats!!

Answer 4

When I first got married I had the same problem! (Part of it was because my husband snored) But I think it was mostly due to my excitement about being close to him and not being used to sleeping next to someone else. Plus sleeping in a new place is always a challenge. I know you are exhausted (I was too) so give yourself a break and sleep on the couch one night. I don't think you have anything to worry about, just give it a little more time and I bet within the next two weeks you'll see a difference.

Answer 5

Have u ever slept in the same bed as someone else comfortably??? .. Personally I cant sleep if he isnt beside me.. At first it took some getting used to cause I was used to sleeping alone in a queen sized bed.. then we started sharing the same bed... had to get used to the snoring (a couple snores here n there so not too bad), talking in his sleep (a few sentences a night), moaning in his sleep (almost a constant thing), when we spoon, he sometimes knees me real hard in my butt...if he's gone for 1 night, i'll be up all night; all these things are comforts to me now n the moaning i find adorable... its just gonna take some sleepless nights to get used to eachother..also he's a blanket hogger so we have seperate sheets n comforters

Answer 6

Hey there,
me and my boyfriend have been together for a long time but only moved in last year. At first I just wore ear plugs, I found the breathing and russling bothersome. Then it was the movement and I didn't know what to do with that. I felt like if I don't sleep in the same bed as this man how can I consider him my husband? I was really stressed about it for a while. Now we have a guest room, I sleep with him 3 nights a week and sleep there 4 nights. It works for us. I still wanted to sleep with him and be close to him but I had to start sleeping! I work mon-fri so I sleep with him fri, sat and sun night, I am a little tired monday morning but I catch up on the nights I sleep in the spare room. I wouldn't suggest sleeping pills as my mother did that and she is addicted to them now.

Answer 7

It's a big adjustment and you have a lot of stress on you right now with your wedding coming up. I think you should take some Tylenol PM about 30 minutes before you go to bed and that should help you get a good nights sleep. Sleeping with your husband to be will take awhile to get used to but soon you both will be sleeping away.

Answer 8

Well first thing is make sure you guys have a big enough bed. After that it will just take some getting used to. At first I couldn't sleep either because my hubby snores but now its like back ground noise. Try getting one of those soothing cds like ocean waves to help you get to sleep. It worked for me

Answer 9

That was a bit of an adjustment for me too. I was used to sleeping in the middle of the bed with all the covers. You'll work it out. Some of it could be nerves too. You'll be OK. I'm to the point now, that if he has to go out of town, I can't sleep in our bed. I sleep on the couch, because I can't sleep in our bed without him.
Sleeping pills would probably help, a glass of wine before bed to unwind, or wearing each other out could work too☼

Answer 10

Don't worry, it may take some time to get used to his sleeping habits, snoring and kicking. Also, you said you are in a new place so just give it a bit of time and you'll be snoring along beside him! Best wishes on your marriage.