My soon to be ex-hubans molested my 13 year old cousin for a year before I found out and put him in jail. I am now divorcing him and I will not change my mind about it but what does God think about the situation. I read an artical the other day in a church paper that stated that you should try to work out marriage problems such as infedelity. But I belive that this is even worse than just cheating. Does He expectet us to forgive and forget such a thing and stay with the person, b/c I woulod not be able ton do that. What do you think and why.
2007-07-10 04:22:08 · 30 answers · asked by jessiejungle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
By the way for those of you who think me stupid for asking this question..I am getting a divorce and would not consider staying with him. I have a trong faith in God and wondered what people belive on the subject.
2007-07-10 04:41:09 · update #1
If what god thinks about this is what is going to make your decision, then talk to the priest at your church. and ask his advice. but my advice is no matter what they say - you have to live with yourself. and he is a sick man in need of alot of help - how could you ever trust him enough to have children with him - knowing what he did?
2007-07-10 04:25:31 · answer #1 · answered by brandi 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I personally don't think that God expects you to stay with someone who is a child molester. If I were you I'd pray about your situation and that God will lead you in the right direction as you start your new life. I wish you much luck in your future. I am a Christian and these are my beliefs. I think there are times when you must leave a marriage and I believe that this is one of those times. God loves you!
2007-07-10 04:33:58 · answer #2 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I personally believe sins are different for everyone, you know except for the obvious ones, like murder, rape, etc. In your situation I don't think God would see it as a sin if you divorced this man. God is an understanding God and He knows if you would have the capacity to stay with your husband or not. I know I wouldn't have the capacity. So I think God is alright with you divorcing this man and I think He can help you through it. God is a fair and just God, always remember that.
2007-07-10 04:29:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Infidelity is one of the few justifications for divorce that God allows in the New Testament. You did the right thing and he should be in jail. Children need protected and this guy needs serious help.
Don't look to the Lord just for an answer to this question. Keep reading His Word, and find out what He's like and what He thinks of everything else.
:-)
2007-07-10 04:29:04 · answer #4 · answered by moneywise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are a Christian then ask for forgiveness and tell God how you are feeling and why you are going through with this. A sin is a sin and a little lie is compared to killing someone, but we are forgiven for things and you had no clue how your ex was so it's better to get out of this situation. I'm obviously not God so I don't know what he thinks about this, but honestly all you have to do is pray about it. Plus God already knows your heart and how you are feeling. Just put it into his hands and don't try to do it on your own.
2007-07-10 04:30:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is a line between infidelity and what you ex did. I think that God would understand. You can't bring a child into the world with a man who may harm the child. You are doing what is right. Some day down the road, you will meet a good man and you can have a family with him. Forget about your loser ex.
2007-07-10 04:27:21 · answer #6 · answered by princess_dnb 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is no known reason to man that you should stay with a child molestor. There is also no cure. I disowned my father for that exact reason. The bible said some pretty barbaric things, like stoning women for standing up to their husband. Times have changed and we have become wiser. There used to be incest often in the bible I believe. Would you or could you molest innocent children become people thousands of years ago did? I mean we have progressed and seen what a crime that is. It used to be in the bible that girls got married. Could you see your daughter marry at 9 years old. So you see it doesnt matter a bit what the bible said. The bible is interpreted according to each and everyones comfort zone. Do not allow that this monster did to become acceptable. If you are questioning this at all you need the help now, not only him.
2007-07-10 04:28:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm not christian, but in my religion (Islam), we believe that marriage is a sacred relationship between a man and a woman where each one of them loves and respects the other, and where each one of them helps raising a productive happy family. So, when one of them does such a thing that ruins these principles and recklessly causes the relationship to collapse, then the other partner has the right to end this marriage although having the choice to forgive and solve the problem.
What I want to say is that you have the right to do that, don't worry about it.
Sorry for your cousin..
2007-07-10 04:33:51 · answer #8 · answered by I.K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definately yes. Molesting a child is nothing like infedelity. It's an unforgiveable act and I think GOD will make him pay for it!
2007-07-10 04:33:08 · answer #9 · answered by Missy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think God would think u were an idiot for staying with this man and putting the child in a situation of it ever happening again. The husband will get out one day.
God will respect your actions. Do get divorced and go on with your life and get some help for the child.
2007-07-10 04:27:47 · answer #10 · answered by smi_le_y 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God wants marriages to last, and they do when we obey what he says concerning marriage. but your soon-to-be-ex is out of the will of God and would not expect you to stay in this kind of marriage where you have to worry about your husband. You can't respect your ex and nobody else will either. Get a divorce.
2007-07-10 04:28:07 · answer #11 · answered by The pink panther 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋