Yes I like guys that are not my race, I told friends a cousin they back me up on it and I am dating a guy that is white but I want to hopefuly marry a guy that is not my race should I marry outside my race?
2007-07-10 04:12:03 · 57 answers · asked by suga mama 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Opposites attract. nothing wrong with that if its all there is to it
but if it's because you don't like black men for some particular trait you see in them, or as an act of rebellion against a parent then stop the train.
all guys share the same flaws and virtues in varying proportion. getting away from black guys because you dont want this attribute or that is just not going to work .
We white guys are just as capable of being all the bad stuff as black guys are capable of being all the good stuff. If that's all its about then make a decision to stay on your own for a while and decide what YOU want from a guy and while you are thinking about it he will probably walk right up to you
Please consider your reasons carefully but by all means go with your heart when it comes to love. they say life is too short. but if you hook up with a guy for the wrong reasons it can seem really long and you just want it to end.
2007-07-15 22:17:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I married outside of my race and have to agree with other poster that stated that race should not be the factor on which this type of decision is made. Actually I married not only outside my race but also outside my faith. Have been married for over 19 years. Do have to fore warn you that some people might be rude or give you wierd looks but if you love the person it does not matter. Not that it matters I am White and my wife is Asian. Just thought would add that to let people know that the looks and comments are made no matter what mixed race couple you are.
2007-07-10 04:18:50 · answer #2 · answered by QCCP 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I agree with little man. I do not recommend marrying outside the race. ( I did) Right now if you are in love nothing can stand in your way you think there are no obstacles that you can't handle. You will have to love each other very much to be able to handle the pressures of family, friends and acquaintances. Some will be accepting and a lot will not be. Just make sure if you dive into this that you understand that it may be hard. Also it is really important if you can be of the same faith. Good Luck what ever you choose.
2007-07-10 04:38:47 · answer #3 · answered by Lue R 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Be very care full when marring outside your race. The are so many culture differences. Family issues, hidden racism, anger many things that can surface. Both myself and my brother married out of our race. Our family does not like it. Her family is just as bad, not to mention a foreign language, no matter what I can not do anything right in their eyes. That is why we moved far away, but still not far enough.
2007-07-16 14:26:41 · answer #4 · answered by jalwells 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
alot of people marry outside of their race. I think you have to be a stong person, because you will get looked at and pointed at from some people, not most people though. HOw will your children be treated by their school mates? Time and ideas have changed in a positive way toward racial marriages. Black or white, we still have to have the same qualities to have a good marriage. Education is the key to it all, I think. We need to educate ourselves from ignorance.
2007-07-17 04:24:50 · answer #5 · answered by The pink panther 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. I have a thing for men who are not my race either. my boyfriend is chinee and we love each other very much. I see no problem whatsoever in marrying someone outside you race. What's the difference? he is still a man and he love you right? so dont hesitate.
2007-07-17 04:05:27 · answer #6 · answered by Phoxi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is something that is not skin deep. You love him right? Then what does it matter if he is a different race? You can't help who you fall in love with. WHy marry someone whom you don't love just because he is your race? It is like marrying someone only because they have the same hair color as you, or in fact not marrying someone because they don't. Listen to your heart, forget what other people tell you, and the color of people's skin.
2007-07-10 04:16:31 · answer #7 · answered by makeyourselfsick 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why is this ? You should be marrying for love and friendship... Only then. If that person happens to be a different race, great, if not you are still in love with your friend and partner in lifes adventures...
2007-07-18 00:43:47 · answer #8 · answered by tigger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is going to make you happy, then who cares what race he is? Do not let people talk you out of it. I myself am biracial and I am not treated any differently than anyone else. I always date outside my race, unless I would be able to find a irish-jamacian guy(lol) Trust me , do not worry. YOur family will love you no matter what. Even if they do not feel positive about tihs now. THey will get over it. Trust me. Different is always the way to go.
2007-07-10 04:19:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love does not choose, you should marry someone based on how you feel about that person. You should marry because you are compatable, compassionate with each other, love each other, want to spend the rest of your lives together. Do what makes you happy not what other people think or feel for you.
2007-07-18 04:18:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋