My boyfriend of a year and a half told me about 6 months into our relationship that he would only continue our relationship if we has a threesome. I agreed reluctantly that I would do it down the road. Now that we have moved in together, I have discussed it again with him and told him I was not comfortable doing it. He said that it was ok but I still have doubts about trusting him. Should I be concerned that this will later become an issue..or that he is the cheating type? He has definitely changed for the better so I'm hopefully he was just being stupid in the beginning and now wants to be more mature and settle down. Just want some opinions as it is driving me crazy, thanks!
2007-07-10 04:07:02 · 12 answers · asked by Jenny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If he has not hinted at it or brought it up again since the first time, I would think that he has grown out of that phase. But keep an eye on him. If he does start hinting/suggesting, or if your sex life takes a nosedive, then I would be worried.
Btw, you are a hottie!
2007-07-10 04:11:12 · answer #1 · answered by Scott O 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
...and let me guess...he wants the threesome with another female, right? How convenient! Tell him you agree if the threesome is with another guy and that you get to choose him! See what the little egotistical, narcissistic little twerp has to say then. I am a heterosexual man and I would never condition my relationship on such a biased demand. If he has proposed this there is nothing good in store for you down the road. Lose this turkey before he makes your life unbearable!
2007-07-10 11:20:08 · answer #2 · answered by SexRexRx 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
it is definetly not a good idea to do this. a couple is 2 not three it is a sin to have a threesome and it is going to bring up many issues in the end you are going to regret it and do not let him pressure you trust will always be an issue if you do there are 3 keys to any and all relationships trust honesty and communication without them you have nothing
2007-07-10 11:15:37 · answer #3 · answered by mom 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ha Ha Ha chill girl he just wanted to know if u wld do nething for him hahaha, he obviously had to make up the score with a mate who probly said his girl let him have a threesome and ur man was prolly like no **** was it good and his mate prolly like *** yer bet u wishes ur girlfriend was into tht? haha now his prolly been thinkin bout it like hmmm i wonder. Coz as we all kno it is a lil fantasy of theirs. U know what u should say lol u should say babe u prolly wouldnt be able to handle it because its not gonna be like u think me n the girl will be gettin it on more then any attention u think u might be gettin. And laugh and be like because im a gonna choose a friend of mine who really has the hot for girls not so much guys and well we have been eyeing each other off lately, i wldnt mind paying attention to somebody other then u! hell be like yer yer watever and just laugh it off togethor imagine it but dont do it.
2007-07-10 11:36:25 · answer #4 · answered by kitty 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You said yourself, he has changed for the better and also, when you brought it to his attention later, he said it was okay. Just let it go, I'm sure he was just testing the waters with you and seeing if he could make his fantasy come true.
I wouldn't worry, not unless he starts to pressure you into doing it which so far, he hasn't.
Good luck!
2007-07-10 14:50:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be concerned if my b/f asked me at any point in a relationship. Swinging isn't a "norm".. I wouldn't have agreed to it at any point because it kinda set the pace for it to come up again, and undoubtedly it will....
See what it did, it caused a trust issue, and it hasn't even happened.
You'll have to feel it out now, and see what happens.
Best wishes!
2007-07-10 11:13:32 · answer #6 · answered by ™Tootsie 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its much better that you talk to him about it then never to have brought it up to you and for him to "experiment" alone. Why is everyone against people talking about things like this. Isnt that what you want, us guys to talk to you about what we would like or our fantasies are? At least he opened up to you, take it from there and find out what you both might like to try.
Good Luck
2007-07-10 11:45:33 · answer #7 · answered by Brett H 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
whats the big deal? it's every guys Fancy to do it to two woman at once, but most of us accept the reality not going to happen
2007-07-10 12:15:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him it's all you ever think about and ask if you can pick the other guy.
I think that will solve your problems.
2007-07-10 11:15:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try it .. you may like it!
2007-07-10 11:33:14 · answer #10 · answered by sweety 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋