at this point I honestly wish i could die... if i didn't have two small kids life wouldn't even be worth living.. i swear he has used and played me for the very last time, but this time he has really crossed THE line.. i have even thought about killing him... I know I need help...can't talk to my mom she would never understand..(she still doesn't know y I love him)...I swear I don't want this to get around to anybody especially at work... hell .. even as i type i wonder can i tell u everything without u judging me OR telling someone? ...I don't know anything any more...when i called u the other morning i had a hand full of pills and a bottle of absolute...in the end i settled for the liquor and didn't take the pills...but it's to the point where i don't even want to wake up some days.... u know i love my kids...both of them, but i just can't keep pretending I'm as strong and confident as i might appear...it's a front..inside I feel a sadness deeper than the word sorrow itself...
2007-07-10 03:49:20 · 14 answers · asked by Baby Jack born 4/5/09 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
*sigh* People look at the question! I didnt write this my friend did!
2007-07-10 04:02:44 · update #1
this woman needs to get her head out of her ***. She is so sad, she is so unhappy, well she made her own bed. It's time she grew up and acted it, she has children for pete's sake, if she can't keep her own act together she can at least be a decent mother. All I see here is her whining about some loser that she is fixated on, it's like the kids exist but don't matter compared to her great "sadness". How incredibly selfish and immature can a woman get? Tell her to grow up.
2007-07-10 03:55:30 · answer #1 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The children are the most important thing right now to worry about. This woman needs to quit thinking so much about her self and what she needs,and start taking care of her children. She needs to see a doctor about her depression and get an antidepressant so she can make better decisions. Her chldren should come first. She sounds like someone when a child was neglected and not loved. She is thinking more of herself than of the kids.
2007-07-10 10:58:34 · answer #2 · answered by The pink panther 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find out if your friend has insurance that would cover some mental health counseling, she is seriously depressed and in desperate need of help. You could start by going to her family doctor with her (that's a start at least) and she must be honest with the physician. Or you could at least babysit while she goes to the appointment. But go to her house and help her make the arrangements to get these services and babysit for her while she goes to the appointments. If she gets the proper medical care she will be on the road to recovery very quickly. Depression is usually pretty easy to treat. Good luck to you both and God Bless.
2007-07-10 10:55:45 · answer #3 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you live near her, go to her and be with her, or offer to let her and her kids come stay with you. I don't know the full extent of her situation, but whoever "He" is, she needs to be away from ASAP. It's obvious that she is depressed and is in need of some counseling. This letter to you is a cry for help, and I would do that if I were you. Her kids need her to be there for them, and obviously she in a place mentally where she can't. I wish I knew her, because I would help her.
If she is being abused (it sounds like it) I would also suggest helping her get into a women's shelter. They can also help her. She needs to be willing to go, but I think that she needs a restraining order against this guy, and to take back her life. If not for herself, for her kid's sake.
2007-07-10 10:59:14 · answer #4 · answered by Jessa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you NEED to talk to her RITE NOW!!!!!! tell her she will regret killing herself that u only have one life, tell her something that could be a lot worse than what shes feeling! say "well atleast you get to wake up in a bed, some people are poor and dont have a bed or a houseor any money! This is an emergency you have to get over to her house NOW! she could take those pills any minute! Tell her why life is worth living! youcare about her thats oneperson who cares about her and thats a reason to live. find out all of her problems and help her fix them. se needs some help. she needs it RITE NOW! if she loves her kids then she would keep living with them. tell her that if she kills herself, then her kids will suffer.what she needs is aguy she will fall madly in love with!--lol but it will work---then she will think i really love some1! i have a reason to live! YOU need to help her. if she emailed this to you, then she rusts you or has the need to tell somebody. therefore, you have to help her. now.
2007-07-10 11:33:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your friend that, first of all she really needs to trust you enough to open up to you, you are not there to judge her but to help her get along, that what friends are for.
As her friend you are ready to accept her the way she is and give her a shoulder to cry on, after all you will be needing her own shoulder sometime in the future, and if you dont know whats wrong how in GODS name are you ever gonna be able to help her.
Tell her you love her and you are gonna be strong for her no matter what has happened, and most of all in life no matter how bad it is, things can still get better, but shes got to put her mind to it.
CHEERS.
2007-07-10 11:02:32 · answer #6 · answered by VanFiyai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh...Tell her not to die? Visit her a lot of times to keep her mind off all the bad stuff. If you got kids, too, then take your kids there for play date. Just remember to not go there as a family with your husband, to, because that would probably really upset your friend.
2007-07-10 10:56:40 · answer #7 · answered by Pickles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man you've got to get undepressed and start thinking of yourself and kids only. Get some social help. Look under your county listings in the phone book or online. Good luck. Keep telling yourself this is only temporary and not for long either, OK?
2007-07-10 10:55:56 · answer #8 · answered by Red Ant 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her she always has a choice... she does not have to stay with him.... and killing him would mean her kids might be taken away... so she shouldnt even think of going down that road... it sounds like he's abusing her maybe.... i dont know.... help her find a safe place to go, and an effective way to make sure he stays out of her life... the police maybe... a lawyer.... she needs you to be a friend... comfort her... tell her your here for her.... help her be strong cos this is the wrong time for her to be giving up... this is the time when she needs to be at her bravest... and she needs support... tell her to surround herself with positive people
2007-07-10 11:28:57 · answer #9 · answered by punkrockprincess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear pal, your friend asked not to tell anyone and you told the world,I know your intentions were good, stay with your friends who thinks that her mother will not understand,she is a mother and should know better ask her to talk to her she is crying for help. If you can't help her incourage her to go to her mother.
2007-07-11 00:35:42 · answer #10 · answered by maram 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋