Have you ever been raped...(serious answers only)?

Question

what happened after; did u go to the police?
Did they go to jail? What was the sentence?
And how old were you?
...Saw a question on Y A in regards to rape n was beside myself w/ how many who answered had been raped.. it seems too common that there are so many victims...
For me, I was raped when I was 10 by one of my grandfather's farm help. I never told anyone; i was too ashamed and scared. I just stayed n hid in my room all day. A week later the guy disappeared from the farm. I found out later that he had been arrested for raping my 6 yr old cousin. He was EVENTUALLY sentenced to 8 yrs in prison. 2 days after he was released, he hung himself....

Answer 1

I'm sorry for your's and your cousin's awful experiences. I was raped when I was 14. It was an ex boyfriend whom I trusted and I was very naive and a virgin at the time.

I never told a soul. Like you, I was just too ashamed and I honestly believed it was my own fault. I buried it for years and only told my first husband about it, when I was in my 20's.

I still don't like to talk about it and I much prefer to pretend it never happened....strange I know, but that's my way of dealing with it, even to this day.

Answer 2

No, I've never been raped. I think you might see a lot of people who would answer Yes to this question because most people who haven't wouldn't be inclined to answer. Also, because this is an anonymous forum, it is probably easier for people who have to say something than in face to face conversation in the real world. I'm sorry that happened to you, and I hope you can heal from it. I also truly believe that it is not "the norm", but when you research it in venues like this, it can seem like EVERYONE has been raped, and it's all that is being talked about. Good for you for trying to work out, and please know that, ultimately, the world is a happy place.

Answer 3

Yes! When I was 5 there was this type of molestation imposed on me by a man named OMAR who was a servant in our house in Cuba.
Since I really did not understand ALL that had occurred I went into some kind of catatonic stage for 5 months after that. When I was out of it I could not remember any details, these surfaced later, as continue to surface now.
Then I was the victim of a date rape while in Graduate School in Phila.
Even though I tried to press charges, the "law" was suspicious, as they were more then, than they are now - nothing really came of it. The young man left school and I haven't any idea where he escaped to.
However to this day I am extremely wary of anyone's intentions in any situation.
And as a result, I avoid dating and relationships!
Pretty much I've become a recluse . . and prefer it that way.
I don't think men can begin to realize what a female of any age experience while being grossly overpowered and violated as if she was no more than a convenient receptacle for his a man's unchecked rage.
I think 8 years in prison is too little time to ponder while in prison such a wrongdoing . . it should be like 25 years!
And then, another 8 in solitary confinement in return for the solitary confinement he has imposed upon the woman he has violated, inside her hurt and damaged psyche!
What do you think is fair, if fairness is something to be considered in rape cases?

Answer 4

I was. About 9 yrs ago by my ex husband , I was only 18 and I left my exhusband. I'm a latin girl from Texas and at the time I was living with him in Tennessee. I left him after so much abuse and stayed at a hotel in the downtown area. I was alone and I had gone for a walk. That night I was almost raped. Some latins men were staying at the same hotel where I was. I was walking to my room when a young handsome guy from that group of men came towards me and asked me if I wanted to have a beer. I was stressed and naive so I said sure. I walked over to their room and all the other men were out on the balcony. He started talking to me and telling me that I was pretty. Then he started kissing me and I pushed him away. He started bitting and groping me and pushed me on the bed. I hit him and ran to the door, he grabbed my arm and to this day I dont know how I got out of it but I got out of his grip and ran to my hotel room. I never told the police but after that I had some friends from work stay the night with me at that hotel. I felt so violated. It helps to talk about it. Hope you're doing fine now.

Answer 5

I was 21, it happened in my dorm room at school. It was my boyfriend at the time. I told him to stop but he just wouldn't. I never went to the police. I know I should have but I didn't. I finally got the gonads to dump his @$$ a week later. I only told my RA and RD that I had broken up with him and that he might try to visit I didn't tell them about the rape but they knew he had been abusive towards me. Don't know what happend to him. I got an email from him about a year later but I didn't respond. I don't know where he is now and it's been 10 years.

Answer 6

I was raped when I was 16. At the time there was a rash in my city of what the police were calling "gang initiation rapes" where groups of young men were supposed to prove themselves via attacking and raping a woman.

In my case, I was leaving my job and headed to my car. I had tried to find the security guy to escourt me, but he wasn't answering his phone which meant he was likely out in his little golf cart patroling the mall parking lot. I had gotten all the way to my car, had the key in the door when I was attacked from behind. My glasses fell off and they dragged me away.

I never really saw them. It was dark, one eye was swelling shut because of a black eye and the other one had blood in it from a gash on my head given to me when I fought back. Eventually I just gave up and waited for them to be done hoping they wouldn't kill me. They didn't. I crawled back to my car, found my glasses, amazingly unbroken, got into my car and drove myself to the hospital. The only reason I went to the hospital is because I knew if I went home, my mother would just turn me around and take me.

The men were never caught, I couldn't give a description. I couldn't even tell them how many there were...just that there were at least 3. I do know that later some responsible for the trend were caught in part due to videotapes they were passing around to show off to their buddies, none of them were my attackers though. DNA didn't match.

Answer 7

Sorry to hear about your experiance.

I'm afraid most women do not want to talk about it, we will never know the true figures of rape victims out there because the vast majority of women never go to the police and some never tell another soul, maybe women reading this thread will feel more confident about speaking up and know that there are other women out there who have gone through the same experiance and beleiveme there are a lot out there.

Answer 8

It happened in 1974, I was 17, and it also was a "date" rape, if you can call it a date. The guy was older (26) and he was living with a girl, although I was unaware of this at that time. I was at an Oktoberfest (although it was August) with friends,and I ran into him. He worked at a local supermarket that I always went to and we were always flirting with each other. When he asked me if I wanted to go for a ride with him to the local beach, I didn't think anything of it, that was something that all us kids did. But, he had a blanket in the trunk of his car and had ulterior motives. We started to kiss, and he took things further. Even though I kept saying no, I lost my virginity. To this day, I don't know if he just didn't understand that I was saying no, or if he thought I was lost in the passion of the moment. At least, that is what the stupid me keeps saying. I just told myself that "We had sex, even though I really didn't want to." The rational me says: He knew what he was doing...how could he not tell that I was saying no and trying to squirm away from him and hitting him and trying to push him off?
When everything was over, he acted as though nothing happened. I didn't know what to do with myself. I was a kid. I told no one until this past year.
This experience forever ruined my perception of men. I'm totally mistrustful of them, and when I read the hateful posts from the guys on here they only fulfill what I already believe about them.

Answer 9

Thank you for raising awareness on this issue.

I was date-raped at age 17. No charges were pressed. I didn't even tell anyone for 14 years. I suffered terrible depression and it finally came out in therapy.
He experienced no negative consequences whatsoever...except for the fact that I urinated all over him.

I hope many people will share their stories here to demonstrate how widespread the problem is, and to help eliminate "victim-blaming."

You have earned a star.

Answer 10

im 12 and havent but have many friends that have been and it is just a sad thing that a human being would do that! im varry sorry for you and your family! i wish you all the best! and if i where u and it happend again the i would deffently not be ashamed! there is no reason you can't stop the sick people like that!