Say that you are friends with a couple and that you are equally close to both. The guy in the relationship is head over heels in love with his wife. He adores her, his life revolves around he, and he can't wait to be a father. He is all about this family. The girl is pregnant, but she has confided is some other friends who in turn informed you that she had a couple affairs and is pregnant with another man's child, but does not plan on telling her husband that he is not the father and she is staying. None of the other girls are friends with the guy, so if anyone is going to tell him, it would be you. Would you let him know his wife was sleeping around and the kid wasn't his. The thing is this will totally destroy him. Or just keep quiet and let him stay happy???
2007-07-10 03:42:38 · 30 answers · asked by Whiskey Tango Foxtrot 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Women and there gossip.
He should know because it isn't right for a woman to have an affair outside of the marriage.(Only the man).
He sounds weak to me.That's the reason she has strayed.
The news will hurt him,but it will make him stronger in the long run.
I hope this is helpful and I hope your day is filed with butterflies,flowers and a rainbow too..
2007-07-10 04:28:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I Am Messing Around With A 54 Year Old Married Man And I Am 20 Years Old. I Been Messing Around With Him Since Last September 2005. He Has A Son Who Is 20 And He Is My Friend And A Daughter Who Is 17 And His Daughter Caught Us Having Sex Once Before But She Did Not Say Nothing To Nobody Because She Has Autistic And She Has A Mind Of A 6 Year Old. This Married Man Wants To Leave His Wife And Married Me... But I Do Not Know If He Will Leave His Wife Of 21 Years! The Sex Is Good And He Always Said I Love You To Me All The Time And I Do Not Know What To Do. But I Love Him! We Never Use Protection But He Pulls Out And Ejaculate On My Stomach!
2016-05-22 13:04:01 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't keep quite for a couple of reasons. First, she didn't just cheat once she cheated a couple of times. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Yes she's staying with him but whats stopping her from cheating again after the babies born? Second what happens when he finds out about it and then finds out you knew and never told him? Third the child may not be his. What happens when he finds out later during blood tests thats there is no way the child could be his? Personally both myself and my fiance both agree it would crush him but we would tell him anyway because it would devisate him later to know that all he loves and adores is a lie. No one would willing choose to live a lie. Tell him so he can let the little slut go on her way. Marriage is about trust and there is none to speak of in that marriage. Good luck.
2007-07-10 04:11:45 · answer #3 · answered by Shannon h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a friend but you don't want to lose your friendship either to the wife. Make the wife tell if its true the child isn't theirs. She can't stay be unfaithful forever. Imagine when the child grows up. The family is going to be a mess. Tell the wife if she loves her husband stop having foolish affairs, unless she's a total jerk. Or perhaps leave the two alone to fend for themselves, they're grown up aren't they?
2007-07-10 03:51:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. I would let life come around and tell him....because what comes around, goes around, and comes back to haunt you. Even if you are close to the guy: she has not told you what she has told others---therefore do you not even have the right, nor the moral duty to inform him. If you inform him then it will be out of total selfishness, and that would not look good on your behalf. In addition, have you ever heard that we do not like the bearer of bad news? I think that it would mess up your friendship with the guy. So let life take its course, because something like that(If it is true), will eventually come to light-one way or the other.....
2007-07-10 03:50:07 · answer #5 · answered by What Will The Spill Kill? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally i dont know. I would have to know both people and situation and know that what is being told is the truth. If it was a really good friend. I would snatch hair samples and see if i could have the test done myself to find out the truth.
If she is a worthless woman that i think that will continue to use him, and its not his. I would tell him asap. I would have to know thou that it is not his 100% for sure thou.
If i did test and it was his, but i knew 100% for sure that she screwed around i would pull her aside and let her know if she even comes close to doing this again im going to expose her.
You can't go on rumor alone. The girls that told you this could have other motives.
2007-07-10 03:51:23 · answer #6 · answered by Jason P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough situation! I would have to say that the husband should be informed of the affairs because the wife clearly wasn't using any protection when she got pregnant and by not saying anything he could be potentially infected by diseases, and personally I would feel bad not saying anything and he turns up sick because of her.
2007-07-10 03:47:49 · answer #7 · answered by Thatonegirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, in this day and age these childish, cheating and fooling around games are not cute anymore. The fact is DNA test are 99.99 percent accurate. No more of this nonsense of "oh it looks like him!" Plus as was mentioned before there are too many types of sexual diseases that are NO FUN. First and Foremost is AIDS and we all know what THAT can do to you. Next on the list is Chlamydia which can cause INFERTILITY which means NO MORE BABIES aside from all the other damage it does internally to the Female anatomy. Then there is Human Papilloma Virus which also wrecks the Uterus. etc. etc. etc. need I go on? This girl needs to get her head straight. She is endangering herself, her husband and her unborn child. YOU need to get in her head and get her to do something. Because the worst case scenario apart from him finding out by DNA test that its not his child is if they are infected.
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2007-07-10 05:04:19 · answer #8 · answered by Ladronaso Delarosa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow sorry for you that you've been put into this situation. If it were me I would talk her into telling him because if you tell him he might not believe you then POOF! there goes your friendship with him. If she doesnt tell him then maybe you might just have to take the chance and tell him the chid isnt his or there is a possibility that the child isnt his and risk your relationship with both of them.. This guy seems like an awesome man and she's stupid to do what she did.
Good Luck
2007-07-10 03:54:08 · answer #9 · answered by kindanswersplease 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont tell him directly. Make cruel jokes in the presence of both of them such as thats funny where did he get that nose? Is that a recessive trait? And where is the bright red hear from? She wont be able to tell you to shut up and it will go right over his head. Shes created a screwed up situation. Make the most of it by having fun at her expense.
2007-07-10 03:49:54 · answer #10 · answered by timssterling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋