Man i love is divorcing so what should i do??

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Man i love is divorcing so what should i do??
He is 38 im 25. We have know each other 3 years and now his divorce is coming through this month in fact. He asked me to wait for him till last mont and he said he loves me and wants to be with me. Now that ive been asking when we can be together and meet his kids his saying that his still waiting on some information and untill that he cant be in a relationship. He also said his not ready to be in a full blown relationship in few months at least. What does that mean?? I feel so angry that he cant just make up his mind. And i feel like i just wanna see someone else. But im sure that as soon as i do he will want me. Why is he like this?

Answer 1

Look it is better for you to not wait on this man, you will be his rebound relationship if you jump right in with him. Go ahead and date other men and have fun. let him date a bit as well, if you really are meant to be together you'll come back and date each other when he has recovered from divorce.

Answer 2

It sounds like you were the "toy" he played with while divorcing him wife and now that the whole toystore will be open to him he isn't going to be tied to one "toy". You need to decide if you are going to be a toy in the toybox and wait around until he decides he wants to play with you or if you are going to cut the string and move on. It sounds as if he has forgotten that you have feelings too and that his feelings and his life aren't the only things to take into consideration. Do you want to stick around for such a self-centered inconsiderate guy? He probably had plenty of excuses while you were dating for breaking dates or generally not being available except on his terms, right? Good luck and God Bless.

Answer 3

Because he's getting a divorce. He is getting out of one relationship, and doesn't want to be tied down with another one right now. So you have to decide how long will you wait, because you could be just someone to do and not someone to live with.

Answer 4

He is right to wait. If he has an affair before he is divorced then he could risk alot with his children as far as the courts are concerned. And im sure he is not anxious to be tied down right now anyways (hence, the divorce).

Answer 5

Well sugar, do the words "cake and eat it too" mean anything to you? Goodness, 3 years, wow...whats another 6 months, to see if he's going to actually decide have a relationship with you or if he's going to dump you when someone better comes along. I wish I could see the future...I'm itching to know how this actually turns out.

Answer 6

Sounds like your man is stringing you along sweet heart. Betcha anything he isn't going to divorce. He will tell ya what you want to hear. On the other hand, maybe he is being somewhat truthful. He doesn't want to be in a full blown relationship. Maybe that is your cue to move on.

Answer 7

He's just getting out of a divorce and wants to feel "free" for a while.
It's up to you if you wanna wait around until he's ready to commit full-time.

Answer 8

You are right, as soon as you see someone else, he will want you. He only wants what he cannot have. He knows he can have you, so he's balking and making things difficult. Move on with your life! He will catch up to you if he means business. Don't put your life on hold for him.

Answer 9

Simple. Forget him. The path to a life with him will hit a brick wall.

Answer 10

Wait. If he comes around fine. If he doesn't, well, get a V-8.