2007-07-10 03:32:47 · 8 answers · asked by bert bert 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell her you want to spend some time just you and your kids and tell her you want her to take some time to relax. Send her to a spa that day.
2007-07-10 03:43:51 · answer #1 · answered by aperson 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Berwyn u got great advice from Bridget!
Assuming u luv ur wife & R trying to learn to parent ur biological kids... ask her to help plan opportunities 4 u break the ice w/the kids. U need to get the kids to trust/respect u. That u need the 1 on 1 time. That u luv her but because you've messed up with them. U don't want them to take anything out on her. That her taking a step back, giving u time to get to know your kids.
A family counselor would be wonderful for the two of u. Your not alienating her, she needs to hear from a professional that it's what the kids need to form a bond with u their biological Dad before they accept your wife. She needs to have patience. Coming up with opportunities that you can have your wife participate in the process once your further down the road. Remember it will be difficult for her, so romance her. Reassure her why u married her. Keep your marriage solid and equally important with your children. I wish you and wife's blended family all the success.
2007-07-10 10:56:42 · answer #2 · answered by Staci 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the opposite problem, i try to plan for my husband and his kids to do things together with out me, he gets SOOOO mad at me for that. He says that i am in his life now, that i am his family and i need to be there with him and the kids.
Talk to your wife and ask her if she wouldn't mind letting you and the little ones do a few hours of just dad and kid stuff, go as far as to set her up an appointment with the spa and give her a little "me" time. That would be a compromise, but make sure you save dinners and things like that for family time, including her.
2007-07-10 10:52:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most likely your wife may become dissapointed but I'm sure she will understand. Tell her that when your with your kids you want to spend time with them to get to know there personalities and of course when you feel the kids are ready for the a stepmom to be around she can of course can be around. Or tell her she can see them seperatly and get to know them on her own level as a new stepmom.
2007-07-10 11:09:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to her that you want some "dad" time with the kids. She should completely understand. I always make an effort to be "busy" some days so that my boyfriend/fiance and his little girl have one on one bonding time without me. I love her and love spending time as a family with them BUT she also needs to spend quality time with her dad alone without her "stepmom"
2007-07-10 10:37:44 · answer #5 · answered by To The Point 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Say you read somewhere that developing father son/daughter bonding time is important. That in the mean time she can take some VERY well deserved "me" time shopping or going to a beauty saloon or just spending time alone...
2007-07-10 10:57:49 · answer #6 · answered by Celine 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems you are more married to your kids than to your wife. Would it make you feel better that she goes out with her man friend while you bond with your kids?
2007-07-10 11:54:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you are going to hurt her feelings, you are MARRIED to her you idiot, trying to exclude her from any part of your life is just plain wrong. If you didn't want to share your kids with her, you should never have gotten married, don't be so selfish.
2007-07-10 10:37:27 · answer #8 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 1⤊ 6⤋