He can ask to have them a week ahead, but the ex wont say yes "in case she has plans". He sees them on occasion,but always at her house. He is not allowed to take them anywhere. He goes camping a lot and would love to have them along. He does not do drugs, and is not an alcoholic, He has a full time, well paying job and pays support. He would like to take her to court, but she says if he does, he'll never see the kids again. She crosses the border regularly to see her boyfriend in Bellingham.and takes the kids.They stay in a motel because her boyfried is homeless.The kids have found needles and crack in the parking lot there. I am araid for them. They are 10,8,4 and need their dad When they do see him,they cry and dont want him to leave what should I as a grandmother do? my 13 yr old is the only one she lets visit because he is so close to the 10 yr old..The only other male influence they have is her dad who is a few fries short of a happy meal.
2007-07-10 03:26:23 · 6 answers · asked by ogopogo 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he has joint custody that was court ordered with no restrictions. He doesnt want sole custory, at this time,he just wants to see them and have them stay over. their mother provides a good home, but takes them stateside every holiday. He saw them for 2 hrs christmas eve, they were gone 2 weeks at spring break, she took them stateside for fathers day.now they are out of school for the summer he wants to take them camping and she wont let him,and he refuses to argue with her.
2007-07-10 13:21:02 · update #1
Was this visitation rights by court? if not, he can take the kids. Its not kidnapping cause he is the dad. And the kids love and cry for him, they won't be afraid or crying. He must also get a lawyer to proceed on child custody. go to court and have a restraining order put against his ex.
The judge will see that a home is better for the kids than a motel. And he will, no doubt, grant her only visitation rights.
Don't let him fear her words about taking her to court and not seeing the kids. It will be the judges decision, not hers. Besides, I see a big favor on your son's side.
2007-07-10 09:44:08 · answer #1 · answered by ♥~♥devilwithbleudress♥~♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should definitely take her to court. He has grounds to take her for full custody because she in endangering the children. Legally, if he has visitation rights,she is not allowed to deny visitation for any reason (not even for unpaid child support) unless he is putting the children in danger, which it doesn't sound like that's the case. Also, she is not supposed to have minor children in the presence of an over night guest of the opposite sex. Let him know that he has options and that if she is as bad as she sounds the law will be on his side!
2007-07-10 05:01:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your son needs to take action.
in most states, it's not legal for a mother to keep the children away from the father... and the courts frown upon this type of situation.
so unless your husband has to have supervised visitation, ordered by the court, he has a right to see the children... and perhaps he needs to petition the court for a set visitation "schedule" ... that is what me and my ex husband had, and it worked out well.
your son can also have him call social services, if the mother is taking the kids to an unsafe environment, if it comes to that.
i'd say that your son needs to consult an attorney and let him know about this issue.
take care
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2007-07-10 03:35:16 · answer #3 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does he really want the full time responsibility for the kids is the real questions.
Although he may love his kids and would like to see them, if he really wanted to have his kids he would take her to court and not care how she felt. It sounds like he is not ready to make that move.
Maybe you need to talk to him and ask him so hard questions about why he won't fight for his kids. He have some real reasons. Good Luck!
2007-07-10 04:48:16 · answer #4 · answered by sparkling_apple 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should take her to court..then it will be court mandated that he spend X amount of time with them on a regular basis..
2007-07-10 03:30:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-07-10 05:40:28 · answer #6 · answered by Betsy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋