Things a couple should agree on...?

Question

I think a couple should agree on four basic things before getting married or otherwise deepening their level of commitment:

1. Kids (Have 'em? Want 'em? If so, how many?)
2. Pets (dogs, cats, exotics, number)
3. Onions and garlic (pro or con, there needs to be agreement at dinner.)
4. Smoking (For about the same reasons as onions and garlic, but there are also health issues.)

I think that a couple that disagrees on these things is in trouble. Others may disagree, or have their own beliefs on what a couple should agree on.

What do you think?

Animals are not "just material." They are beings that feel attachment and pain, just like children, and you're taking responsibility for their lives just like children. I think it's vital to communicate about pets before merging households.

Answer 1

You forgot:

5. Toilet paper - over the top or underneath?

Answer 2

I think that #'s 2-4 are trivial compared to honesty, friendship, and just getting along with each and enjoying each other. The last 3 are all just material, what about getting away from that?

It is still material in the usual Americans way of thinking, sorry to disrupt your love of animals. I love animals, and I was not putting them down.

Answer 3

Kids are a definite. pets maybe but onions and garlic???? Live a little try new things. Smoking? he/she can always go outside. It's nice to have alot in common but it's also nice to try new things too. Keep an open mind and love will find you. Keep looking for perfection and you'll never find it.