to make matters worse you know you are financially dependant on your husband and you have a baby to take care.
2007-07-10 01:38:12 · 12 answers · asked by palfinder 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
tell him honestly that you know..get a certain facts open on the table..mentioned the kid,and also ask him what is wrong in the relationship..can you fix those things or not..and baby is very important ...in all that disscusion..do not forget that..good luck
2007-07-10 02:30:58 · answer #1 · answered by Marina S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The real question is WHY you stay when you know he's cheating. Denial mode??? Perhaps you mean he's stuck in the lying mode. Ask for help: your family, friends, DHS so you can get a job and affordable child care. You are also stuck...in the helpless mode. This mode can be broken when you get enough of being cheated on and you pull yourself up and get your life together. It is so empowering when you decide to be good to yourself and your child and take the steps necessary to make it happen! Good luck.
2007-07-10 09:15:36 · answer #2 · answered by missingora 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to live with a husband that is cheating on you? I don't care how financially dependent you are on him. You can get a job and he does have to pay child support and possibly alimony. Many women have done it and are better for it. Your life will be miserable if you have to deal with this. He is in denial? You mean he just won't admit it. Please - do yourself and your baby a favor - get some proof, call a lawyer and get rid of him. He won't stop- they rarely do. Respect yourself and don't settle for this - you deserve a faithful man and someone that respects the institution of marriage and family.
2007-07-10 09:00:13 · answer #3 · answered by Babycat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You get yourself together as fast as you can. You find out who might do a little child care in exchange for the same, and you visit a Goodwill store and get yourself something to wear to job interviews.
You figure out how much you'd have to make to rent a room or a very small apartment in walking distance to your job and to pay for child care while you work. You talk to friends and family to see if anyone is willing to do you favors like take your baby every Tuesday, or let you live in their spare bedroom. You even consider moving back with your parents.
And you get the hell out, file for divorce, and make sure you file whatever it takes for child support.
In short, you stop being dependent on a man who doesn't respect you at all, and stand on your own two feet. Yes, a woman can need a man, but you don't need a man like the one you've got. You're better off alone.
2007-07-10 08:51:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are completely certain that he's cheating on you, why would you want to stay? I completely understand about the child and the financial problem, but there are many single women raising and supporting a child in this world. Don't let him degrade you or don't degrade yourself by staying. This isn't a life to bring your child up in. You aren't going to be happy and it will reflect onto your child. Find a job and a place to live, maybe your parents till you can get on your feet, and get the heck out!! Good luck!!
2007-07-10 08:48:09 · answer #5 · answered by Needtoknow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have family you could go to with your baby? This is a tough situation, and my heart goes out to you. Ask him to consider counseling first, before doing anything drastic.
He will continue to do as he pleases, especially if there are no consequences. Faterhood brings out the best in real men; but it brings out the dog in bad ones.
Sounds like he knows you are dependent on him and feels there's nothing you can do about it. Show him, sis. You aren't the first woman this has happened to. It will be hard, but you can do this. You can be happy and healthy with him or without him, you are NOT his slave.
2007-07-10 08:51:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG are you living my life? i am in the same situation and once i had my daughter i decided to stay home full time with my daughter. and i know how you feel you need to start getting your stuff togethor. no women should be cheated on and you need to realize that u are not alone. you can call your local help line and they will assist you untill you get on your feet. i am in the process of the same thing. if you get any get any good info share it with me. in the mean time keep your head up and never let a man put u down.
2007-07-10 08:47:56 · answer #7 · answered by ctqueenbee 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get yourself together to where you're not dependant on your husband. You need to get yourself, and your baby out of there. you or your baby does not deserve to be in this situation...
2007-07-10 08:48:51 · answer #8 · answered by engineer46526 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Start being a model wife and make everyday as wonderful as you can. Tell him that you love him unconditionally and trust him too. His conscious will prick him and he may return. Keep doing this till he breaks open and apologizes.
Rub the "I trust you and I love you lines as much as you can."
You will see results.
2007-07-10 08:56:45 · answer #9 · answered by Neophyte 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DUMP him and get out. Ask someone for help and get a job. Dont stick with losers.
2007-07-10 12:35:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋