my friend is BI?

Question

i found out yesterday that my female friend is bi. i am against bi, lesbian, and gay people because of my morals and my religion. i upset her because i didn't accept her and i felt uncomfortable around her. i even started crying because i didn't want to lose a friend of 10 years. i am 13 and she is 14. is she just trying to find out her sexuality? was i wrong for being shocked? what do i do? all answers appreciated.

Answer 1

She's just a confused kid brainwashed by the liberal propaganda machine. Don't worry, she'll grow up eventually and realize how foolish it was. When I was in high school there were several "bi" girls when I was a freshman who ended up being straight senior year. It's a matter of her being young and not knowing much.

Answer 2

At that age, a lot of people are unsure who they are in that respect. Her definition of herself may change. However, currently she is bi. You cannot force your morals on others, so try to learn tolerance for others. You're friends, making it clear she is a great person. So what if she has a different view of something than you? You are still sticking to your guns if you following your beliefs for you, but is it really worth losing a friend over being closeminded about others? It's normal to feel shocked and uncomfortable, but she probably needs support and comfort more than ever at this time in her life. You two were close friends for ten years, your friendship can handle this. Talk it out.

Answer 3

OK, most of the people freak out when they get such a confession from one of their friends... and it all happens because of their religion... I'm not gonna try to mess out with religion right now, and with the creeps that said being gay or bi is a sin, in the name of Jesus...

First of all, as a friend, shouldn't we accept our friends for what they are ? What if they're different ?! The whole world counts on diversity, and I think you know that ! As a true friend, you must learn to accept your friends for what they really are... otherwise, you'll lose many friends and people you like...

To finish my answer and to make it complete, please think the "gay", and "bi" thing through... God said that we should love the people around us, maybe love them more than we love ourselves. Now, God didn't specify "Love only the ones around you who are not GAY, or LESBIANS, or BIs", did he ? So, I guess you should appologise to your friend, and the best thing you can do is try to respect people for what they are, because you can't change them...

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Answer 4

You do know that you can't "catch it" right?. She is your friend and she happens to be at a point in her life where she feels some attraction to both boys and girls. While you may not agree with her choice due to your morals and religion, it is her choice, her life and if you were a true friend, you would still be her friend. I am sure that if you told her that you were bi, gay, whatever that she would be very accepting and supportive. My cousin and I are the best of friends and he is gay. It was very hard for him to tell some of his friends but he did and while some do not agree with it, they are still his friends and do not treat him any differently because of it.

Answer 5

I think that you cannot impose your beliefs on your friend. You're not bi, so what's the problem? She was your friend before, so there's no reason this should change.

I'm not gay, but I knew a few gay guys. They were actually really nice and cool guys to know. And I'm a Christian...

It's just the way life is. Being a homosexual or bisexual doesn't mean that they are bad people. You just have to accept it.

Answer 6

You all are 13 and 14, there is no sexuality. Most girls will experiment with other girls and thats actually kind of normal. I highly doubt she made a life long choice to be a bisexual; there's a lot of life left to worry and decide about that.
If she ends up staying that way, thats her choice. Im sorry you were raised to hate people for their personal choices. If she were your true friend you'd stick by her, its quite possible she's just as confused as you are. If this is something you cant handle, make new friends that are just like you and dont make her situation any worse.

Answer 7

Ok well think about what she has gone threw before telling you she obviously trusts you. If you refuse to accept her just because she is bi then what’s the difference of rejecting all people with different religions. They believe in different a thing that’s how people are and have always been.

Answer 8

Take a moment and be in your friends place. She must he thinking about telling you for years. Going from should I or shouldn't I. An thousand more things passing threw her mind at the same time. Like if I do would she still be my friend. She came to tell you because she felt that you been friends for a long time and this would not change anything.It was not wrong of to be shock. It was new news to you.

Answer 9

Let go of your prejudices. Your beliefs may say it's wrong but she's not you. Her beliefs don't have to be the same as yours. And did it ever occur to you that she may be feeling this way too? She can't help who she is and I think God dislikes lying to yourself much more. She had to come out to be honest with herself.

I try not to define my friendships by race, gender, religion or sexual orientation. I also don't have to share all the same beliefs or lives as my friends. We don't always have to agree. And I don't always have to be right.

As you get older, you'll start to question things that simply don't make sense. I think you want to be a good friend to her and not judge her. I can't see how any expression of love and compassion can be wrong in the eyes of God or anyone else.

It's ok to feel weird about it. A friend coming out is a big deal.. it's ok to not know how to feel. But just consider relaxing about it.. that's all.

To the person who asked, yes. It does say in the Bible that a man should not lie with a man. It's in Leviticus. But the Bible also condones slavery. I don't think God likes slavery.

Answer 10

You know am BI ,and I was 13 when i was trying to find out my sexuality too its just something she needs to find out for her self. You should just be there for her in case she needs you.