She left with our 13mth old baby boy to our capital city & I'm left with our 2 older boys under 5. We got along great in our marriage like best friends & I still love her but she reckoned that I didn't trust her with the housemate in which she admitted 2 me she had feelings 4 him & him her. I gave her a choice whether she wanted 2 stay with me & the boys or not & I kicked him out because I felt threatened by him, she decided to follow. She's done this kind of thing to me before we were married in which she eventually found out what the other guy was like & realised that she still loved & had feelings 4 me & she came back. Is this a pattern? Does anyone think she will come back or is it better 4 me just 2 let her go this time? After our breakups, she has been bitchy towards me. Has anyone left their partner twice & came back 2 them 4 good because they made a mistake of leaving the first 2 times?
2007-07-10 01:24:11 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
To add to everything that's said before my answer, get solid proof & evidence of your "wife's" affair outside of the marital bond.
Start thinking a little harder & use your brain cells man !!!
You have to prioritize your desires, I'd put the kids on top of the list. So do what's best for them & make a plan.
And don't get into relationships with any woman until this ends in divorce or something less harsh.
2007-07-10 01:45:44 · answer #1 · answered by daffy duck 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bro if she did you like that 2 times already she will mostly likely do 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 times to you. If you both really and truly want to make it work get professional help if she is willing. If not move on and leave her alone. She sounds like she has some serious issues going on. You deserve better than that anyway. Focus on your kids for right now too I am sure they are confused and need your support. Good luck.
2007-07-10 01:34:49 · answer #2 · answered by IIIxKrazy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she wants to see what life without you would be like. If it really was out of the blue and caught you unaware than there are things going on in her life that you don't know about. I'd be very interested in what she's doing and who she's doing it with while she's gone. If she refuses counseling than I'd protect myself by retaining a divorce attorney. She has no legitimate expectation of solving your problems if she's not seeing and talking to you. I'd suggest having the attorney draw up papers for a legal separation that spells out a specific time table for her to return to your marriage before it turns into a divorce action. You need to restrict her access to your money and property at the very least. I know you don't want to hear this but keeping your head in the sand will not benefit you or bring her back. If you take action than she will at least understand what she stands to lose.
2016-05-22 05:01:23 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like a pattern to me. I can pretty much guarantee that if things do not work with this other guy, that she will spoon feed you the " I realized that I love you and want to be with you" and you will eat it up and take her back. You and her will be fine until she comes in contact with another guy and then you will be right back to her saying "I think I have feelings for him". Your main focus right now should be your kids. Take care of them, be a great father and move on with your life. Do not let her come back unless you like being the fall back guy.
2007-07-10 01:31:51 · answer #4 · answered by bluemysti 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's over between you. If she's done this before then, yes, it's a pattern. Plus she's left two of her children. No, she is not someone to spend the rest of your life with.
Your first responsibility is to your children. Go to a good lawyer and see what you need to do to secure your children's future - and try to get custody of the baby.
Won't be easy - but end this and get on with raising your boys.
2007-07-10 01:31:29 · answer #5 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better to be divorced and able to get along. The children are going to start catching on that Mommy dearest keeps dropping daddy for the flavor of the month. It's not good for them or YOU. She obviously cannot stay committed despite the fact you have 3 beautiful children together.
2007-07-10 01:28:00 · answer #6 · answered by Vickie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she's a skank your better off i cant believe ppl some times you have the boldness to cheat on ya partner in you guy's own home and i.e. If she cheated on you before OBVIOUSLY she was gonna do it again once a cheater always a cheater hun sorry to tell ya but its true just find someone better ok
keke
2007-07-10 01:31:04 · answer #7 · answered by SexyMaMi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time for you to move on everytime she thinks something better has come along she leaves unless you plan to spend the rest of your life like this you may want to consider leaving and taking your boys
2007-07-10 02:13:21 · answer #8 · answered by mmedina96 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like a woman with no morals. Let her go and enjoy the grass on the other side and you go and find someone who will love you and never cheat on you. Please do not spend years pining away for her, go and have a new life with your children.
2007-07-10 01:29:57 · answer #9 · answered by Colette B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all are you sure that the kids are yours? and hell no i wouldnt let her back in the house again...its not just you she is hurting she is hurting the kids too, so for the kids sake NO. you need to show her tough love and she her that the grass is not always greenier on the otherside. DONT LET HER BACK INTO YOUR LIFE!!!!!
2007-07-10 01:30:26 · answer #10 · answered by $martA$$.com 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋