How can you help someone who has been systematically abused throughout their life..?

Question

Someone who was mentally abused by one parent, raped as a teenager, horribly abused later in life (sexually) by another parent - and the police refused to believe them regarding the sexual abuse.

If someone cannot afford to be anywhere except for the same place as the person who sexually abused them, what can they do?

Answer 1

There are Crisis Centers available for people in a dangerous situation. Therapy to work through all the issues is crucial to going from victim to survivor. A person, friend or confident can try to help and offer support but ultimately coming out the other side is up to the individual. The greatest help you can offer is friendship and support.
Peace.

Answer 2

This is not an easy question to answer. It would be awfully hard for me to forgive the people that I should have been able to trust but couldn't because of what they had done to me.

My advice is to get counseling from a pastor who knows the Bible and can help you get started with someone who gives free counseling about these issues. I know how church has a psychologist who comes in and councils with different ones for different reasons. If you live in the South Carolina area you are welcome to notify me through yahoo, and I can give you the name of our church. It all has to start with forgiveness no matter what somebody has done to you, then sometimes you have to confront that person but don't do it alone, you need to have someone with you that knows of the situation to do this. There is free counseling out there. I am sorry for the person you speak of. No child, no adult should have to endure such pain in their lives. Just remember there is a God above who can help you, that is who you should trust and he will give you the answers you need.

Answer 3

I've seen this work, for people who are in the process of being abused: Chart what's going on Now. Put calendars on the wall and a notebook and marker in your pocket. When something cruel is done or even threatened, make a mark, and let people see you do it. Say nothing, or just something vague like, "Uh-huh," or, "There you go again."
People who try to dominate people who are younger or weaker than they are Pitiful. Pitiful.

The police part is the saddest, because in your mind they represent society. Please realize that they, too, are just human individuals. Please realize that God loves you, bought you with His life, sees you, and has plans that will make you forget even all this ugliness. Hold that thought!

Answer 4

You have just described my best (female) friend. The Police don't believe her. Her mother should be in prison for what she did. But finding out that the man being allowed to abuse her was her biological father nearly sent her over the edge.
all I can do for her is listen and hug. I introduced her to my best (male) friend who was also abused and now they are happy together and safe.

Answer 5

I don't know about you but I could never be around someone who sexually abused me. I would be f*cking somebody up, people like that don't deserve life. Living on the streets would be better then living with somebody who abused me.

Answer 6

Does the person even want help? Are we talking about the same person with a blond headed avatar who shall we say, is not very friendly? If so, then i have wondered the same thing.

Answer 7

Sometimes all you can do is love them.

Check to see if your area has a group called parents united.

Love and blessings Don

Answer 8

They need a therapist that can support them and guide them to releasing th pain

Answer 9

If it's a woman try contacting:
http://www.womensaid.org.uk/
http://www.refuge.org.uk/
http://www.womensrefuge.org.uk/


If it's a man:
M.A.L.E (Men's Advice Line Enquiries) - Helpline: 0845 064 6800
http://www.refuge.org.uk/page_l1-2_l2-150_.htm

Answer 10

all you can do is be there for them. Keep on at the police as well.