I don't think that having kids is wrong or anything, but I have a friend, who is 17, and seems to only want to get married and have a lot of children. I am worried about this for a lot of reasons. One, I am afraid that she will be quicker to marry a guy at a younger age and not think as hard as she should, two, that she will not take her college education as seriously as she should because she does not plan on having a job, three, that she will end up living through her children and husband instead of taking up her own intrests, and finally that she is just not ready to make this desicion in high school. I have nothing against SAHM, so dont think I am discouraging her from taking that role, but I feel that she should have goals for herself and I have never heard her talk about wanting to acomplish anything but to be a wife and mother. I do not say anything to her when she talks about this, but I want to know if there is a way to talk to her about my concerns without offending her?
2007-07-09 21:44:00 · 6 answers · asked by AGM120 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Ask her how she plans to take care of herself, if that wonderful husband of hers loses his job, dies, takes critically ill, or worse yet leaves her stuck with children to feed. Tell her that she needs at least something to fall back on just in case. Besides the good men really prefer intelligent women that are self sufficient.
2007-07-09 21:50:37 · answer #1 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because it isnt exactly what you would want for your life doesnt mean its wrong. She might think ahead more the older she becomes and yes you are reacting like a true friend in this situation but theres a difference between helping a friend and shattering their dreams. You can voice your concerns as a friend but keep it brief
2007-07-09 22:28:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
plz.....tell the girl too wait till she is 30 at least then go ahead and have all the kids she wants.she needs a home for those children and beds and clothes. they are not cheep.and she will be stuck home with the kids.for daycare is very costly.and i dint want my taxes too pay for any more child's birth,(there is way too many taxes that comes out of my paycheck now.) so make sure she has health insurance.and a good job.things are not cheep.
2007-07-09 21:54:32 · answer #3 · answered by Sandy M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do no longer think of there is something incorrect with desirous to have a family individuals, yet I do think of that we could desire to observe that often our plans circulate awry. as an occasion, her plan relies upon on yet somebody else. What if the guy she marries won't be able to assist a family individuals by ability of himself. no longer each and every working mom is one by ability of selection. Many paintings because of the fact they could desire to. additionally, on an identical time as being a discern is the main needed job a individual could have, it is likewise a short-term job. in case you do it genuine, you will finally render your self out of date. what is going to you do whilst the youngsters are grown. on the different hand, I truly have commonplace people who purely wanted to have a family individuals. and that they've been doing purely effective once I checked. i think of you're candy to agonize yet what we'd like at 17 isn't what we'd like at 21, 30, etc. it may be greater powerful to talk to her approximately what she thinks a sturdy mom could be and attempt to effect her to think of approximately what a sturdy husband and father could be like, how a mom with existence journey could desire to be greater powerful than one without, and help her set standards. purely attempt to no longer be intense or judgemental.
2016-10-01 07:06:40 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If thats what they want then thats what they want. It doesnt seem like it will harm any one else.
2007-07-09 21:53:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
every ones thought will defferent and depending their carector
2007-07-09 21:48:02 · answer #6 · answered by keral 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋