I also find I have this problem with friends too. With the girlfriends I always thinking they are lying or cheating. I have no basis for this I am just suspicious. I wanted to know what other peoples thoughts were on these. Anyone else have these problems or similiar ones? Thanks in advanced.
2007-07-09 21:36:37 · 5 answers · asked by Shaun 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You have low self esteem. Insecurity causes jealousy. Jealousy ruins relationships. You need to start realizing that the person that is with you has a choice. They chose to be with you. That makes you a pretty special peson. Start appreciating yourself for what you are, and you will be able to trust others.
2007-07-09 21:46:26 · answer #1 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What type of relationships are they? Do they start off online? Your best liar detector as a homosapien is facial expressions and non verbal language. Studies of different facial expressions in cultures around the world show that there are many shared facial expressions/reactions that are the same. A genuine facial expression is not easy task to fake. We are built in liar detectors so we can make the friends who will help us out when times are bad. Make sure you get plenty of face time with your girl.
Also work together with your girl. Read a book together. Go volunteer for something one weekend. Go on a hike. Think of work buddies that have integrity. Why do you trust them? Because you work with them and get to know them. In a working situation both members are required to contribute and both of you suffer through the physical task. Nothing can be better for trust.
Other than external stuff, describe your decision process in choosing girls. (Are you only picking the crazies :). Also take a good look at your self-esteem and confidence. Eternal truth in dating: date people who score close to your same hotness. Say objectively you both are 5's. But maybe you feel like a 2 or 3. So naturally your fear should be that when she meets anyone 4-5 she will leave you and go with them. If you recover your confidence, you will realize that you are on the same level and don't have to worry about those other 4s or 5s.
2007-07-11 03:42:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have the same dilemma as much as yours.ive been to online relationships on and off,but it seems that no one cant be that honest about their lifestyle,personality,work info and so on...they would just let me get on the hook then leave like we didnt share a special bonding.it sounds odd but there were 2 men from online whom i trusted that much...but have no heart at all.i think they were actually emotionally attached but for some reason can't find the way to materialize everything. but then i didnt find it hard to trust men in some ways.but u know if it really meant to meet someone online or from within ur area there it will really come no matter what the consequences are.u will find in ur heart to trust the right girl for you.it's just not the time yet.im sure of that.Take care.goodluck!
2007-07-09 22:17:29 · answer #3 · answered by Cassenav 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only a phrase of recommendation...do not cross snooping or whatever...that simply makes concerns worse. But I could try to believe her...if she says no take her phrase for it. Is she getting past due night time calls? intimate textual content messages? hickies, lipstick marks? If she was once getting any of the ones then yeah I'd almost definitely expect she's dishonest. But adequate if this sense nonetheless does not leave in a couple of weeks or so, confront her once more and make certain you are organization approximately it. And if she nonetheless denies it and you continue to have a stoop THEN cross snooping, and if inside every week you discover zip. Let it cross.
2016-09-05 22:06:22 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should trust your g/f it's the foundation of true love......if she cheats well, her lost not yours. the point is you do your part
2007-07-09 21:47:52 · answer #5 · answered by ramzo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋