Boyfriend will not marry me because I am on Med-ical. Advice?

Question

Hi All. I am wondering if you think this is reasonable, or not. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 years and he says that he wants to be with me forever, but will not legally marry me because he is afraid that since I am on Med-ical (and SSI), that if he dies, someday (before I die), that the state will possess his house and property instead of it going to family. He has put a lot of money and hard, long hours of work into building his house, so is this a reasonable concern of his as to why we should not get married? It especially bothers me because I am a Christian and feel that marriage is a commandment, as oppossed to just living together. Thank you, everyone.

I would like to add that I am not on Med-ical for a mental issue; it is due to a muscle injury. Also, I don't think my bf is just using me because everything he does for me is very giving and he wants my pleasure more than his- in everything. Any more answers would be great. I appreciate them all! Thank you!

Answer 1

I don't know where your bf is getting his information from but this is simply not true. You being on Medi-cal and SSI has nothing to do with anything should he expire. Where is he getting his info? If he doesn't wish to discuss where he is getting his info from or have a change of heart, you will have to make a choice to stay or go. Marriage is not a commandment but living together is not pleasing in God's sight & if he doesn't want to marry you, you'll have to decide what you are going to do..Good luck!

Answer 2

From the sounds of it Med-ical is some sort of program to deal with mental illness?
If this is the case I would advise him against marrying you.You may wish to point out to him that in many countries, if you've been living together for more than 3 years the law views youas married for the purposes of property anyway

Answer 3

Has he not heard of a "will". It sounds like your bf is non-committal or is using you and is just fine with your current situation. None of us ever knows when our timeis upand to worry about it is ludricous especilly when he should be worried about othr things he can do something about like getting married and let the future take care of itself. What will happen will happen and when and all the planning or worrying wont change it. I dont think he has the exact feelings about you and your future as you do, so maybe its time for some tough love and force him into some sort of future committment or maybe its time to move on and find someone better suited to fulfill your dreams. Good luck

Answer 4

Research the law in regards to SSI, Med-ical, & Wills. He maybe able to Will it to a nother member of the family. I think he may have other reasons too, just not ones he knows of yet.

Good Luck

Answer 5

If he marries you, it's your house, you're his family. move on to someone not so hooked into material things.

Ask your priest for advice. And a lawyer. How is the state going to get his house? I've never heard of that.

Answer 6

material possession only last when you are alive. he has an issue about marriage, ask him. and don't take the crap about his wealth going to the state. he could always make a will.
good luck

Answer 7

I THINK YOU NEED TO TELL HIM THAT IT DOESN'T MATTER WHO GETS THE HOUSE AFTER HE DIES!!!! HE'S SUPPOSED TO LOVE YOU MORE THAN THE HOUSE RIGHT!!! WHAT SHES TRYING TO SAY ''GETMYMACKON'' IS THAT YOU ARE NOT SUPPOSED TO LIVE WITH SOMEONE BEFORE YOU ARE MARRIED!!!! SHE'S OBVIOUSLY A CHRISTIAN!!! READ THE BIBLE IT DOES SAY THAT! AND SHE SAID IT WAS A MUSCLE INJURY NOT A MENTAL ONE!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 8

Since when did marriage become a commandment. I thought it was a committment between two people.

Answer 9

LOVE IS UNLIMITED..

if this is his problem then he does not love you enough, please look after your self and get better and move on..