i was with my ex for 5 years, my partner i'm with now, i have been with for 2 years we have a baby together and are engaged but i still love ny ex and cant stop thinking about him sometimes i hope i could be back with him but then on the other hand i love my partner i'm with
2007-07-09 20:43:49 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i had a few people say some nasty things so i would like to add that my partner can not look at me like he use to after having his baby because i have put on weight (i'm only 57Kilos) now and i think that is why i'm thinking about my ex more
2007-07-09 22:45:02 · update #1
Get your mind off from your ex....its natural when you have been with your ex for 5 years, you will try to compare the good habits and bad habits between your ex and your current bf....you are getting all those feelings coz when you tend to think bad about your current bf....so best advice is, list all the good habits that your current bf posess....and appreciate him for his good things and all the stuff he does for you....when you appreciate what he does, he will want to do more better things....
anyway, now that you have a baby, theres no point of hanging on to your past....
hope you come out from that situation soon....
2007-07-09 21:05:36 · answer #1 · answered by banju 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You met a guy saving an old woman, who happens to be gorgeous. Its like some type of film. But its a fantasy you have in your head. But to be honest. You dont really know him, for all you know he could pick his nose whilst watching tv, or pic at his toes when he is in bed. Or the man cough in the morning (i honestly think every man in the world does the "man cough" in the morning"... very attractive... not). You are probably nervous about commitment, but that is completely normal. Keep your fantasy where it is, as you will have too much to lose. You are engaged to a man whom you love, so concentrate on him, and the qualities about him that made you love him. After all, if he were in the same situation as the other guy, some girl would most probably have the hots for him too XX
2016-05-22 03:24:52 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to think about someone that you have shared so much of your life with. You need to figure out if you are thinking about him b/c your unhappy in your present situation or because you just miss some of the times you had together. Don't think it will ever be the same with your ex time has a way of changing people and your perception of how he was may be influenced by your lack of happiness now.
2007-07-17 09:03:39 · answer #3 · answered by smittinkittin33 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone have their fair share of wrong decisions that they had made... I trust that at that point in time, there were absolute valid reasons for that... whether the reasons were right or wrong, they were reasons...
It is ok if we cling on to those memories so that we can progress with life... but don't turn it into an emotional baggage that will hinder you from moving ahead...
Hold an empty glass in the air... its ok if its a minute... its probably tough for an hour... but how long can you hold it in the air? Forever?
Likewise, let it go... cherish whatever that you have now and focus on your current blessings... you'd be happier that way...
I always like to tell my friends that it is always nice to look back and smile at the memories (good or bad)... and be content with what you have now...
2007-07-15 08:11:22 · answer #4 · answered by The Sleepy Ghost . 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nikki, sometimes we move too fast, causing us to make life changing, hurtful mistakes. We can't always say why it is that we do things. Sometimes we honestly do not have an answer to why we do it. After making life hard for ourselves, we must learn to deal with what we have dismantled. I speak from experience. Just like myself, I left a good man to stick with a man that can not and will not love me as the man that I left. I stayed in this relationship hoping that we can make a family out of the relationship. When he realized I had left the good man, he begin to show me that he have not changed and is incapable of loving anybody. I prayed and asked God to give me 1 more shot at being happy with my ex. I waited patiently. Went through the pain of the dumb decision I made and he came back to me. I didn't have to beg him, God honored my wish after he saw that I was faithful in my repentance. What I am saying, you have to find out why you are making bad decisions in your life. Why are you choosing the wrong people to make a life with.
2007-07-16 23:29:34 · answer #5 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about the ex... You have a family now. Fulfill your responsibilities to your family, and love the guy your with. The one who is your ex, is your ex for a reason. It may be that you just miss the "freedom" of not being so committed. But you have real love with your fiance, and your child... And in the long run you will better off.
2007-07-09 20:49:26 · answer #6 · answered by Mel W 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it seens like you are confused, you already made a choice, to be with this guy and have a baby by him. Your ex for 5yrs whatever reason for the break up you chose the new guy over him. let that old relationship go, It been about 3yrs since your broken up, dont try to open up a can of worm. The old relationship is dead and buried. Be happy with your new family.
2007-07-16 02:34:17 · answer #7 · answered by dbrh_soto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, stop dwelling on the ex-factor and dwell on the here and now. Your baby deserves for you to try and put all of your love into the family you have created for it. Don't forget the reason he's an EX! You don't want to mess up what you have for something that you already had and got rid of!!!
What are you thinking, girl?!!! Knock it off and get on with your real life, not your dream life.
2007-07-09 20:49:51 · answer #8 · answered by minimickimichelle 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That is why you are thinking about ex. It is always easy to idealize the past ex and think only of the good times not the bad. It is about how you feeing now that you and fiancee are disconnected, not that you want ex back.
2007-07-16 10:38:02 · answer #9 · answered by Woman in Red 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's pretty common that now that you have problems with your partner, you're thinking about your ex. Try to resolve the issues with your partner. Remember that if your ex, is an "ex" thamt means, he wasn't so good either.
2007-07-17 06:17:41 · answer #10 · answered by Flavia L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋