Do you think you are rewarded if you remain a virgin until after marriage?

Answer 1

No, but then I don't really subscribe to the religious theories regarding the divine rewards of abstinence.

Originally, it was a way to protect property (salable women) and assure paternity of progeny - the churches just picked it up and ran with it. There are a lot of religious maxims that are really rather funny if you know their origination. :)

Answer 2

I don't know if rewarded is the right answer. I have friends that waited until after marriage to have a sexual relationship and it was a source of great stress for awhile as they were somewhat sexually incompatible. They worked it out eventually but I don't think they thought of it as a reward at the time!

Answer 3

hello,
i think in a religious stand point the reward would be between you, god and your love one. i am 24 years old now and i lost my virginity at 18. my state of mind was i come from a broken home, my friends parents divorced and so one night i DID IT. i never made up my mind to hold out until my wedding night, but definately for someone i loved. well i say DID IT because it was a pure physical act that i have learned from and would take back in a heart beat, for the mere fact that it meant nothing to me. now i have met my boyfriend, soul mate, best friend, my lobster who is my world. we have been together for 5 1/2 years now and plan to be married on nov. 3rd 2007. we talked about sex all the time, he was a virgin and i was not. i had such a hard time with this because my experience meant nothing and he was holding out for someone he loved and would marry. after feeling rage towards myself and then crying so much, i told him that i was sorry i could not give him that same gift back in return. after talking and crying, i took his hand and held it over my heart and told him that choice i made i gave my body away but that when we embrace in that sacred moment he would have my heart and soul. we waited four years and i can tell you this it was the most beautiful encounter and i had no business having sex before hand. i told you this story because there will be mistakes that are made that are forgettable...and there are those that cant be forgot and i would give anything to take that one stupid night back. sex is a special relationship that two hearts should share and only ones heart knows. i found the man of my dreams and i dont regret having sex before we marry. i think the reward in waiting unitl ones wedding night is that you waited to give the ultimate of your full body , soul and heart to one person and there would be no regret.
hope this helps in a way,
attyslobster

Answer 4

Define Rewarded? Will God send you down fireworks or grant you a winning lottery ticket? No. But in some ways you are rewarded because your first time doing all that well AWESOME stuff will be associated with someone you love, not that girl that cheated on you or that guy that dumped you five years back lol.

Answer 5

Yes. Part of your reward will be a much stronger bond with your mate and that will be more important than can be explained later down the road when your marriage has the ups and downs that all marriages have but not all survive.

Do the right thing and nothing bad will come of it.

Do the wrong thing and nothing but bad can come of it.

Best Wishes

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Answer 6

Actually, statistics show that people who wait to become sexually active until after marriage have a greater chance at staying together and report a much higher rate of sexual satisfaction with their spouse than those who had pre-marital sex. It is God's perfect and pure wedding gift to you and your spouse. And, like a present opened on Christmas day, it's no surprise and nothing special if you've already peeked under the wrapping.

Answer 7

how? What is the reward? not getting pregnant? Maybe but many non virgins get that reward too

Answer 8

rewarded, by who...their husbands? well, im sure it'll give them an even bigger 'head'. kind of like an added bonus. but boys will be boys, so frankly i dont think it makes much of a difference-virgin or not.

Answer 9

My spouse and I waited. I think the reward is knowing that you belong only to one another in that way. It would creep me out to think he's comparing me to someone else :p

Answer 10

Ya. You have sex when you are really in love with someone and you should save it for that special person. If you love them you will marry them, if you really do. so wait. you could end up regreting it if you dont wait. think of it this way u dont knw who u will marry but they r with someone now, how would you feel knwing that person is ur lover one day in the future is having sex with someone else. also the person with ur now will have a partner how would the partner in the future feel if u had sex with their lover in the future????