My husband's being a jerk. He keeps taking off and we have a 3 yr old together. We just moved, he lost his 23 year old brother. I know he's stressed, but he has a family to think about. I know he's under a lot of stress, but I don't think it's fair to our daughter that he keeps leaving and coming back. I know he's not cheating on me. He just stays at his aunt's house and drinks. I am fed up and lonely. My daughter is everything to me and I want to do what is best for her, not me. Please help!!!
2007-07-09 19:08:14 · 17 answers · asked by mishka 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thanks for all your input! I have tried talking with him. His brother passed in November '06, but I guess the stress has just been building. All of you who said that I am allowing it are right! Ending it makes much more sense. Maybe he'll find his way better on his own and my little girl won't be so confused!
2007-07-09 22:25:41 · update #1
Just be there for your daughter and let your husband work out his problems in his own way. You're just adding stress on him by nagging at him, he just lost his brother, give him time.
2007-07-09 19:10:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Get your husband into counseling. He's grieving. You cannot force him to be a husband or father, but if you really care about this man as a human being, not just what he is supposed to do for you, then start acting like a woman and a wife. Be loving and nurturing, support him by giving him a safe place to be and get him into see a doctor for some help.
2007-07-09 20:00:11 · answer #2 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know your husband might be mourning right now and who can blame him...I would fall apart if one of brother's passed away. However, you should give him a good talking to.....this way he knows that you and your little girl still need him to be an active part of your lives.
If he doesn't come around in a decent amount of time (no one can say how long a person mourns) then you need to simply worry about being the best parent you can be. At the end of the day...you will know whether you have put your best effort in!
I am sorry for your families loss!!!
2007-07-09 19:26:57 · answer #3 · answered by yidlmama 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am sorry to hear about your brother-in-law. Your husband has got to be going through a rough time right now. You need to ask him why he does not want to be with you during his time of despair? You need to talk to him and be there for him. I am sure his aunt loves his compassion and company but he needs to grieve with you as well. As his wife you might need to tell him to come home to make sure you are part of his grieving process and you understand what he is going through and want to help him through it. He should not shut you out while he is feeling so lost. It will only separate you both.
Let him know you are there for him with out judgment for what ever he may want to talk about.
2007-07-09 19:23:37 · answer #4 · answered by Irene K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may want to try and get him some help. It sounds like he is depressed. He is running to his aunt's house and drinking to hide the pain he feels from you and to drink the pain away.
Maybe you should try talking to him and tell him how you feel, but be careful because he is morning his brother. Also you may want to give a little time to get himself together. If this continues for longer than a month , then you have to put your foot down. I hope this helps. Remember to be there for your daughter, she needs at least one parent to be strong. He will come around, he just needs time. Good Luck and God Bless.
2007-07-09 19:22:19 · answer #5 · answered by sparkling_apple 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-11-14 04:49:06 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just have a heart to heart with your husband ....when he is sober...let him know that you love him and know he is going through a hard time but the alcohol binges are tearing your family apart. Tell him that he has a family that loves him and needs him but you will seek a divorce and be without him if he continues to drink himself to death. He should not honor his brother by ruining himself. If it continues ...then move out and move on....
2007-07-09 19:13:51 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
You are the one who ALLOWS him to keep leaving and coming back. Grow a back bone and tell him when he leaves that's it. Then go file for divorce citing abandonment. If YOU keep taking him back YOU are as much at fault as HE is. The BOTH of you need to grow up, you have a child to raise.
2007-07-09 19:59:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
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