There's a man that likes me very much but there's another man that I'm already married to that tells me he loves me very much as well! Also we have children but I'm am very interested in the other gentleman.I don't know what I should be doing or thinking!!!!
2007-07-09 19:05:06 · 19 answers · asked by Carebear 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You should be investing the energy you put into the relationship with another man into making the relationship with your husband better.
You know the man you are married to. You, only, know what this other person appears to be or your fantasy of how you think he is.
2007-07-09 19:10:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your interest in the other man even though he tells you he loves you shows there is a problem in your marriage that you and your husband need desperately to discuss and reignite the loving relationship a married couple should have, try to turn your interest in the other man towards your husband, it sounds as though you are romanticly inclined and maybe a honeymoon or a lot more closesness is in order. Maybe your husband is aware of your feelings towards the other man, and if so probably feels hes loosing the woman of his life. How would you feel if it was the other way around, him and another woman. It's time for serious communication that the love you once had is still there, and seriously build on that for the return of a very happy marriage. Please talk with your husband it may prove very different than you might think and save your marriage too.
2007-07-09 19:51:03 · answer #2 · answered by ejdimples2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're playing with fire. You're married to a man who loves you; why ruin a great thing by emotionally investing yourself in a man who isn't your husband?
You have kids. Why not spend all your energy on strengthening your family rather than daydreaming about some guy who has the potential to ruin not only your life but their's as well.
Perhaps a marriage counselor can help point you in the right direction if you're still torn between the two men.
2007-07-09 19:14:33 · answer #3 · answered by JC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be putting yourself in a tempting situation in the first place. You should be thinking about your family especially your children. If you really want to get with the other man you should at least have the decency to leave your husband first before starting a relationship with the other guy. There are no excuses for adultery and infidelity. If you have an affair it's not just your husband you're going to hurt but your children as well.
2007-07-09 19:23:11 · answer #4 · answered by lov308 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm married, and have 2 children. I love my husband very much, and yet there are times when I wish a certain male friend of mine was more than that. Fortunately for me, he feels the same way and we've talked about it and have agreed that we will stay friends, best friends in fact. If something were to separate my husband and I, it is definitely something I would pursue, but it's not worth ruining a marriage for. You need to make a decision, to see if you love your husband enough to stay with him despite what you might be missing. Try being friends with the gentleman letting him know you have no intentions of being more than that first. One can never have too many friends.
2007-07-09 19:10:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should ask yourself if a fling is really worth destroying your family over! You married your husband, you made a committment to him and you should honor it!!! Stop all contact w/ this other man! If he is not there to make you feel wanted and good about yourself, then you would not have to be asking what to do.
Attention is nice, but you need to get it from the right man.. your husband! If you feel he is not giving you the attention you are needing, then talk to him about it. Communication is so important in marriage!
2007-07-09 19:11:42 · answer #6 · answered by hereigoagain 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say there's "another man" that you're already married to? Is that the way you see your husband--as another man? You have no business being married, let alone having children. You're still a child yourself.
2007-07-10 01:18:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made a commitment....a promise....and a person is only as good as their word. If you are unhappy in your current relationship, then you should move on. If you are ok in your current relationship and are just loving the chase you are getting from the other guy...then you should think it through....
Take this as food for thought (whether your marriage is good or not), if your children knew....what would they think and how would they look at you???
Temptation is always going to occur at different times of your marriage...having temptation and FORSAKING ALL OTHERS is true loyalty. You just need to figure out whether you want out of your current marriage or not. Good luck!!!
2007-07-09 19:39:58 · answer #8 · answered by yidlmama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know. I would wonder how I came to be involved with another man if I was married. How did you do that?
2007-07-09 19:11:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you say that you don't know what you should be doing or thinking? You're married and you have children THAT should give you a clue!
2007-07-09 20:39:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋